To think all neighbours should be abolished

[Vintagejazz]

The loud music, barking dogs, bratty kids, wind chimes, inconsiderate parking, DIY at 7am, constant barbecues, smoking underneath windows, not collecting parcels and revving car engines at all hours.

AIBU to think we should just abolish the lot of them because they are driving us all mad?

Its not neighbours we need to abolish, we need clear rules about social and anti social behaviour, with clear fines in place for pro longed misery.

The reason people being anti social is that there are no reasons why they shouldnt.

if it was clear cut, fined etc people woULDNT DO IT.

ITS useless councils, slow moving creaking wheels, shit EH departments etc/

I'm nice to live near too, and understand that sometimes people might be different from me, and that we can still all rub along together

Id love to see you rubbing along with the problem houses on my street!
When someone kicks your door in at 4am because they have the wrong house, throws a brick through your window, again, wrong house, piles of rubbish building up in garden, stinking attracting flies, and feeding a colony of rats. Chucking rubbish into your garden for fun, Constant domestic fighting, regular police attendance, parties on work nights, constant shouting, glasss smashing, pissing out of windows, stabbings....oh and the odd drugs too.

I've been looking on Amazon to see if I can buy some of the nice old fashioned neighbours: the ones who lend you cups of sugar, offer to mow your lawn when you're on holidays, pop over the road to see if the elderly lady living on her own needs any shopping done; allow you to give out to their misbehaving child without starting a diplomatic incident; use your back door when they call round for a coffee; and are always there in a crisis.

But they're very rare and awfully expensive nowadays

I love our neighbours. They ignore me bellowing at the kids on school mornings and my shite 80s power ballads, and we pretend we don't know they're dealings drugs out of their flat.

Yabvvu
Who will feed my cats when I am away or lend me random items I have forgotten to get/lost????
I totally luffs all my neighbours and they luffs me back ( I think)

My NDN is lovely, I only have one but she's fine.

Quiet, no young kids, no smoking, no barbecues, no music, no parties, she always takes my parcels and collects hers straight away when I take hers. She sends birthday and Christmas presents round for ds, she's fab.

The people over the back however, I've been very tempted to get the super soaker out on their kids still bouncing on the trampoline at 10 o'clock at night.

My parents are having really bad problems with some people enjoy don't even live on their street but their garden backs onto some people a few doors up from my mum. The music is horrific, all day and night from midday until early hours in the Summer. So it's not always your immediate neighbours.

Having moved from all that shit to a detached with lovely neighbours I can honestly say I would stay here forever.

We would never ever move back to an attached house.

I realise there are exceptions Haunted and Sweet and that it must be awful to not feel safe in your own home, but I am staggered at the number of threads that appear on here where people are ranting about their neighbours doing perfectly normal, everyday things, and just wanted to redress the balance a little bit

We are pretty lucky with our neighbours. One of our NDNs smokes and we can smell it if we have our French doors open, but on the flipside she and her DH are retired and have a boat so spend most of the best weather away anyway. We water their garden for them when they're gone and they let us use their tap and hosepipe for our garden (we don't have an outside tap). The other side looks after our house when we're away. We live in a small quiet street so there is no loud music, no incessantly barking dogs - you wouldn't know next door had a dog, she's so quiet and well-behaved - no young children kicking balls against the fence incessantly, no cat shit in unexpected places...bearing in mind we live in a terraced house, it's bliss!

YABU, give me BBQers, Smokers, Engine revers or anything in exchange for the stinking Hoarders I have next door to me.

But Back even a smallish thing can become very annoying if it is incessant. For instance, the odd late night barbecue during the Summer is fair enough. Every weekend is not. Kids very occasionally being out on the Green a bit later than usual is okay, but constantly throughout the Summer is very annoying. Somebody drilling or mowing their lawn at 7.30am as a once off, well you just have to put up with it. Some one doing it every Saturday morning is not acceptable.

Small wonder that by August a lot of tempers are frayed and neighbourly relations strained to capacity.

Since we were married in 1971, we have lived in two rented flats and four of our own houses and have never had a problem with any neighbours. We have been more friendly with some than others, but every one of them has been kind, helpful and non complaining. We must have been blessed. I hope they would say the same about us.

The 70s and 80s were a very different time though; at least here in Ireland. Neighbours didn't, as a rule, blast out loud music at all hours, or staunchly defend their misbehaving kids against all complaints or do a lot of the other stuff that causes annoyance and bad feeling nowadays.

If we sell our house you could have our neighbours OP.

The NDNs are currently on holiday. The people across the road are minding their house/cat for them. They put the bins out for them yesterday. When my other NDN was widowed one of the other neighbours across the road just started cutting her grass for her. She leaves a set of keys and the code for her alarm with us when she goes away 'just in case'.

People on this street are really nice.

Vintagejazz, from what I remember (not Ireland), neighbours would have been at each others parties so not worried about the noise, smoking was either inside or not really complained about and children were disciplined if they were too loud or misbehaving

Exactly Jayne, and if an irate Mrs Jones gave out to a child for trampling on her flowerbeds or making too much noise at night, said child did not go running home complaining to their parents as they knew they would be marched back down the road to apologise to Mrs Jones before having their pocket money stopped.

I diasgree about the 70s and 80s being different - it was then as it is now:
Some poor folk do have the neighbours from hell, and it always has been that way
The vast majority of folk rub along fairly well together the vast majority of the time
There are some folk that arent' tolerant of ordinary neighbour noise - yes, dc playing, yes some DIY or noisy garden tools, yes the odd party, and that was the same in the 70s and 80s too.

I think the only way is to move to the 1950's, I don't think the wifi is very good though :(

I think it's the amount of loud noise going on until really late at night that causes the aggro Back. When I was a child people didn't have the money to have big parties and barbecues were unheard of. Also, parents weren't as quick to jump up on their high horse if anyone complained about their children.

Everyone wants a car but no one wants traffic

I would quite like it if we could all live in detached houses. That would be good.

I live in flats now, but I really appreciate my neighbours. In comparison to where we lived before, they are angels. I lived with booming music every day, a complete psychopath threatening us and beating up his gf and dogs, just utter hell.

Here, it's quiet, mainly working singles and families. Pretty much everyone is respectful and considerate. It's heaven on earth compared to our last place.

So no, after all that waffling, I don't want to abolish neighbours. Yabu.

I am loving my current neighbours but definitely wouldn't mind getting rid of some of the previous lot :) Sadly, the type of neighbours you get seems to be largely down to luck.

Yes if we could all have a house with half an acre of land the neighbors would be far less of a problem, which section of the population should we get rid of to make room?

Well maybe not abolish all neighbours, but just some of them. We could pack them all onto a coach together with their wind chimes and musical instruments and barking dogs and power drills and extra loud tellys and send them off to a commune to drive each other mad and leave the rest of us alone.

DIY demons are quite possibly the worst of all.