to expect my family to acknowledge my DD's birthday?

[PleaseJustShootMeNow]

Just a card would do. They've had 21 years notice to sort something out. She's so upset that nobody could be arsed.

Did you remind them?

Do they generally acknowledge it every year?

They were all reminded several times. She is often forgotten despite their kids always being remembered. I suppose I know I'm being unreasonable. I learnt years ago that I should expect anything from any of them ever. But I'm a glutton for punishment and keep going back for more. (This is the family who forgot to invite me to my Dad's surprise 70th.)

• shouldn't expect anything

It is crap especially if it is her 21st birthday

Up till now I've always sent something for my nieces and nephews despite my daughter being forgotten and them never having the curtesy to even acknowledge that they've received what I've sent. I've never had the heart to punish the kids for my siblings being shit, despite being told to fuck em all by Mnetters many times. This may well give me the strength.

They shouldn't need reminding, it's shit that thy haven't even sent a card. Wish her a happy 21st from us.

Maryz A very similar thing happened to my DD. I send cards and gifts to all nieces and nephews and an extra-generous 18th gift. When my DD turned 18 my DH's family ALL congratulated her with gushy messages on fb but not a single card or gift arrived on the day.

We had a lovely celebration anyway but I promptly allocated any further gift buying and card sending to DH side to him.

OP, I know how you feel :(

We overcame it by putting a big emphasis on our immediate family celebrations (i.e. DCs and us), with a lovely meal in posh restaurant, a beautiful cake and lots of hugs and kisses and general fussing.

They missed out. Not her.