to think I was really rude?

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One of my brothers is getting married next year. He and I are very close and I love his fiance who has felt like a member of the family for years already.

I live abroad and have been in the U.K. sering friends and family since Saturday. Had dinner with my bro and his fiance and a couple of others tonight. The conversation turned to the wedding dress, which she has already bought. Then somehow the conversation shifted to something else. But just now a horrible thought came over me that I should have asked her more about the dress. I feel really rude.

Get over it. Move on.

not at all. & often some people try to keep the dress details a surprise, don't they?

My feeling is that you are probably over thinking this. When people get together socially conversations do jump from one thing to another at lightening speed and I often find myself saving up comments or questions that never find the light of day because the conversation has moved on.

Why not ring her and ask about the dress? Or tell your brother you feel bad about it and see what he says?

I don't think that's rude in the slightest! If you had completely dismissed her, that would have been rude, but just letting the conversation move on is fine

Sounds like a bit of anxiety. Just take a deep breath and realize people are far too wrapped up in their own worlds to notice what other people are doing. :)

Just relax. If she wanted to talk about the dress, trust me, as a bride to be, she would not have shut up about it.

If you really feel bad about it, call her and say that you didn't want to ask too much about the dress as your brother was with you and she may be wanting to keep the details a secret from him till the Big Day.

Send her a text saying 'so tell me more about the dress? wanted to ask last night but didn't know if you were keeping it quiet in front of groom '. Problem solved :)

Great minds, optimist!

Just enjoy the wedding, OP , and don't worry. She probably did not even notice.

Thanks, everyone! I did overthink it, I am a few years' older than my future sister-in-law and very close to my younger brother so I never want her to think I am being dismissive of her. I have been travelling but am hoping to see her this week when we can chat more.

Thank you again for all of the reassurance.