WIBU to go out tonight?

[everythinghippie29]

Today is my anniversary with DP (not married just when we started dating).

We normally don't do much and at the moment have hardly any time together, 7 mo breastfeeding, co sleeping DS sees to that! DP has booked a table at a restaurant for us and I was really looking forward to some time together. Neither of us drive so our friend, DPs cousin offered to take us to the restaurant and babysit DS then pick us up and bring us home. Perfect.

Apart from DS has got his first cold. He was really sad last night and is having regular calpol doses for a slight temperature. His nose is blocked and streaming and he is extra grizzly. I'm now thinking we should cancel as I feel bad leaving DS in case he gets upset AND I feel guilty leaving him with DPs poor cousin who will be stuck with a grumpy, loud baby for 3 hours. DPs cousin is a business owner and usually busy and we are pretty busy ourselves over the next few weeks so it's not as easy as just rearranging the date.

I am shattered, disappointed, sad for DS and so genuinely don't know if I am being a bit PFB (if I stay in) or selfish if I go!

Help me make a rational choice!

Your son will probably be fine, but I would feel bad leaving him with someone else, purely for the babysitter's benefit. I have cancelled nights out even when I have suspected that me being there won't make a difference, but because I don't think it's fair to subject someone else to a grumpy, overtired and shouting baby. It is a shame, but do you think you would enjoy a night out if you're worried about your son and your partner's cousin?

Meant to add that if the cousin is fine with it, then I might be tempted to go, but whatever you decide, you will not be unreasonable!

Check with your cousin. If they are someone with experience with children they probably wouldn't mind that much. In which case, go! Don't underestimate the value of a bit of time away when you're got a very young child.

If it's someone inexperienced, then maybe not. They might not cope so well.

Will you be far away?

I think will cancel and hopefully try again maybe next month! We wouldn't be far and could always cut dinner short but it won't be the nice relaxing meal I was looking forward to.

DPs cousin and his girlfriend don't have DC and I think want a taster with DS but at the moment he might put them off for life!

Doh! Hopefully DS will have better timing next chance we get!

personally I would go. There's always something and its really important that you and your DP do couple things together. Its only a couple of hours, your DS may not even wake up and so long as the cousin is up for it, go and have a great time.

If they're not that experienced with children I wouldn't subject them both to it. If your LO wakes bunged up and upset ds is going to be harder to re settle.

Would a lunch at the weekend be easier?

Not possible at the weekend but DPs lovely mum found out we had cancelled tonight and stepped in and has said she will come to ours to look after DS on Wednesday. Hopefully he will feel better by then but even if he is still grizzly his DGM is very capable of settling him and cheering him up!

DP brought home flowers, chocolates and some pate and chutney ( which I would probably have had as a starter!) So had a lovely evening anyway ANDI got to stay in and cuddle my poor little DS.

Thanks for the advice!

yay to go DP's Mum!!!!