What's a reasonable time to expect children to be quiet in the evening?

[MrsWinnibago]

Is 7.40pm too late for my DC to be in the garden?

Not screaming or anything...making normal playing sounds. Bit of laughter etc.

Neighbour has just threatened to call the Housing Association and complain. He approached us as I was calling them in as their friend's mum had arrived to collect her.

He was red in the face and shouted at me in front of my guest. I might complain about HIM I think!

I think it's ok as long as it's not screaming.

Has your neighbour got little kids that might be being kept awake?

I think 9pm at weekends and earlier during the week - I can hear my neighbours children playing out now. Mine are asleep (still little)

WasNice his Granddaughter stays on weekends but the DC weren't yelling. It was normal noise and really...does our life have to stop because his grandaugter is here?

Depends how old they are and whether they're playing "nicely". No screaming, shouting, tired tantrums etc. i would say under 5s up to 8pm, older ones up to 10pm.
TBH loud drunk adults having BBQs can be a lot more annoying!

I think 8:30 - but maybe I'm just wishing that was true (neighbours kids are screeching and banging a heavy football around in the street AGAIN). In all seriousness, 9pm and then I'm going to tell them to pack it in.

Between 6 and 9 Kiffy three of them there were as DDs friend was here.

No shouting or screaming....they just don't! I just feel that it's our garden and I shouldn't be afraid to allow them out! I was just getting them in anyway so he had no need to come out and embarrass me like that.

I would say it's getting a bit late at 8.30/9 on a saturday after the schools have broken up for the summer.

He's just being an arse, I wouldn't complain about him (unless there's more to it) or give his complaint a second thought. You sound as though you're aware of the time/noise levels, what more can you do?

Could you ask him what time is too late for him (apart from the obvious 7.40) does he think they should all be in bed by half six or something?

Wouldn't it be nice if we could all live in detached houses set in an acre of land.

Sigh.

(not being sarcastic, genuinely wishing- have started a thread about my issues)

I can hear little people's voices from somewhere on the street. I actually think it's a lovely sound, but not when they run past the house and wake my baby.

Mine are in the garden. From 9 I will get them in/quieten them down. Never had a complaint. I won't let them go out before 10am tomorrow.

It depends.

How old is his dgd? Was she asleep in the bedroom near the garden. Was the window open as it's hot?

I got stabby the other day as dd (14 months) was ill, it was hot, window open and the kids were shrieking on a trampoline. Every shriek had her stood up crying.

In the end I went round to neighbours and threw myself on her mercy instead of having a brawl and she made them go on the front.

He should have shouted at you though

I think up to about 9pm is fine. Even if he thought otherwise, there was no reason for him to be rude to you. I'd give him a damn good ignoring!

I'd say 9.30/10.00 ish on a weekend in summer.

'I got stabby the other day as dd (14 months) was ill, it was hot, window open and the kids were shrieking on a trampoline. Every shriek had her stood up crying.'

why didn't you close the window and put a fan on? you can'y expect the world to revolve around your baby.

it depends, are your DC honeslty good in garden?

its just my neighbour would say hers are and they are not...kick fence in, kick ball against p;arty wall etc..

There are kids near us who are out blowing whistles at gone 10pm on a school night, that annoys me a bit! 7.40 normal noise is fine.

Dh went round to next door but one neighbours at 8 to ask nicely if their 4 grandchildren could kept the noise down.
We have had screeching all afternoon.

Silence afterwards.

There is no excuse for shrieking whatever the time of day

Laughing, normal shouting, all ok.

Shrieking, No.

About 9.

I guess in the summer once it is dark it is reasonable to expect neighbours of whatever age to start to quieten down usually. Exception should be made when it is a one off.

IMO parents of small children, parents of children who have grown and gone should also remember that what goes around comes around. Early starts may be just as unwelcome to night owl neighbours. Small children get bigger and will keep different hours.

Set teeth to gritted and get revenge at a bright and early hour in the morning.

I don't expect the world to revolve around me or my baby...but I still feel raging annoyed when our neighbour has guests parking outside our house who like to toot their horn to say cheerio well after 11pm - they know you're leaving, just bugger off quietly!

We've got kids shrieking and drunk idiots yelling over the road at the moment.
I would say 8.30

I agree things should start settling down around 9 O'clock.

Though the time is a complete side issue, he shouldn't be shouting at you full stop.

9pm if running about playing, 11pm if family out also having BBQ/ friends over.
Wouldn't let out before 9am weekdays, 10am weekends

Seems sad to shut anyone away at 7.30pm, it was lovely and sunny here then, and not everyone has super early bedtimes.

Same in reverse, all those not wanting noise after 7pm, will also want to be out early no doubt which wakes up other also ( yes neighbour who started leaf blowing at 9am this morning, we were all still asleep- it's the weekend)