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My mother in law is not that bad (I know of far worse!) but god this makes me fume

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catherinemm · 19/07/2014 18:47

My MIL is not interfering, doesn't make rude comments about my parenting, basically she's far easier to deal with than many but one thing she does quite often has pissed me off again this weekend . . . So here's the most recent example. We have a lawn mower at home we don't need and she wants. It's only been here a couple of weeks (my parents had it there house and brought it up to us knowing she wanted it as they live quite far away) and we can house it for a few more if needed but my OH did let her know it was here for her to pick up about a fortnight ago. We heard nothing from her about it til Friday when she asked if we were around Sunday so she could come and collect the lawn mower. It has to be more of a flying visit as she lives a 90 min drive away. Anyway, despite having some plans for Sunday, oh said yes that's fine but then so we don't have to stop taking LO to this event we want to take him to he told her about it and suggested she come with us. This means we had to cancel on seeing a friend who lives near the event after. Anyway, he as sent her 2 texts and yet we still don't know if she is coming and when. I am annoyed. I want to know of we can go to this thing in the morning or have to wait til she turns up. If the latter I'd like to have a tough eta. Is that too much to ask? Obv I've asked oh to ring her, he refuses.

This is quite typical of her - no vague plans, no responses to text. Maybe I'm an uber planner but god it's annoying

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catherinemm · 19/07/2014 21:24

We now know she's coming at 11, but I reckon she'll be late as per! I don't know if she is coming with us but we are still going. I sort of hope not, but that's very bitchy! DS loves her, I just find her annoying for the typical no real reason MIL things - she always wants to push the buggy, she willbiy him ice cream after he's had a cake blah blah. God I'm horrid, my sister has it far worse with a MIL who makes digs at her for still breastfeeding all the time

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Ronmione · 19/07/2014 22:29

she always wants to push the buggy, she willbiy him ice cream after he's had a cake blah blah.

I think that's s dgm think rather than mil. Just stick with time you want to leave, if she's late that's her choice

Delphiniumsblue · 19/07/2014 22:32

I would just cut him out of arrangements - phone her direct and sort it out yourself. Much simpler.

catherinemm · 19/07/2014 23:04

Think I will in the future, just struggle with it being treading on his territory - like this time for example, she texted him so he replied, for me to jump in, well would that be just a bit odd?

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maddening · 19/07/2014 23:08

Pop it in the car and tell her to call when she's on her way and you'll let her know to meet you at yours or at the show, when you're ready go and if she drives to the show you can meet her in the car park with the mower.

catherinemm · 19/07/2014 23:16

Can't do that, we live in central london with no car (and in flat, hence no need for mower!). So we have to wait but think oh will understand if we give up and give keys to neighbours if she's really late.

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Delphiniumsblue · 20/07/2014 06:52

I wouldn't think it in the least odd to text- it involves you.

MaryWestmacott · 20/07/2014 07:39

She's due at 11, so 11:15, you start getting you all ready to leave, text her saying "have set off, call us when you get there." Give her the mower at the end.

Pimpf · 20/07/2014 07:44

If shes late, theres nothing to stop you leaving and dh following you later

tobysmum77 · 20/07/2014 07:57

freecycle is the answer. But then your parents abu if they've brought a mower round to sit in your flat Shock .

tobysmum77 · 20/07/2014 07:59

and if she buys him ice cream after cake don't let him have it. She wil be Angry but won't do it again Wink

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