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to want another baby?

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spongebobmum · 19/07/2014 11:15

Aargh, we have ds4, dd is only 9 months, we've said we'll try again when she's 2 (practical and financial reasons) but I want another now! Dd is a very quiet easy baby but I'm on low dose anti d's and don't cope well with stress.
Despite knowing waiting is for the best I'm so so tempted to just do it!
Don't know why I'm posting really, maybe for some opinions or a kick in the backside!

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Jumblebee · 19/07/2014 11:31

YANBU, I have DD who is nearly one and since she was about 7mo I've been longing so badly for another baby. I swore after having her I'd never go through that again but now I'm eating my words! Unfortunately it just won't be feasible to have another baby until we're a lot better off financially, so I have to wait Hmm

On the plus side, I'm trying to enjoy every minute with my DD and make the most of my time with her. I think wanting another baby for me is partly because she is no longer my tiny little newborn and I miss that stage Hmm

mommy2ash · 19/07/2014 13:29

I think waiting might be best. if you are already on anti d and don't cope well with stress it might be too much.

ShineSmile · 19/07/2014 14:08

You have no idea how your next baby will be. I wouldn't personally take the risk especially because you are on depression tablets. Enjoy your baby for now, plus toddlerhood is near, the easy going baby might turn into something else!

MrsMaturin · 19/07/2014 14:22

2 under two is very, very hard. Give yourself a break. You have a plan to try at the end of 2015. That sounds very reasonable to me.

ChickenFajitaAndNachos · 19/07/2014 14:26

I think I'd wait a bit and just enjoy the baby and your DS.

scottishmummy · 19/07/2014 15:07

It's not all about you,what's your dp think/want
It's about what do both adults need/want.not simply your desire for a baby

Original poster
spongebobmum · 19/07/2014 17:36

Thanks for all the replies, I am going to wait until dd is 2 because it would be too much for us, this feeling is just so strong!!

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neddle · 19/07/2014 19:29

Thing is, you're looking at how things are now. What's your eldest going to be like in a couple of years?
We had a 4th when ds2 was 4 and now at 6 he's a real handful. Very hard to deal with atm, especially as I'm pregnant with #5.

TruJay · 19/07/2014 19:51

I went through exactly the same thing when ds was 9 months as did a few of my friends, maybe its a hormone surge when they get to that age or something lol

We didn't have another baby though, in fact dd didn't come along until ds was almost 4. Myself and ds are so close and I'm glad we had all that time alone together. He starts school in september when dd will be 10 months and then I'm looking forward to spending some one-on-one time with her.
I'm not saying u should wait that long at all but it is nice to enjoy them on their own for a little while.
I obviously have no experience of a closer age gap and that of course is probably a lovely experience too.
I don't think anyone can advise u on what u should do in your circumstances, they can only share their experiences but I understand that urge of wanting another, it can be so intense sometimes but I find it does come and go.

Purplepoodle · 19/07/2014 19:57

I call this the danger age because form around 9 months until about 1.5yrs I get so very broody. I gave in to its after dc2 which wasn't wise looking back. Now we have three I'm going to have to think hard about a 4th and the impact it will have on the other three as there is only so much of my attention to go around

MeganAndMo · 19/07/2014 19:58

Don't do it.

Just because your dd is a good baby will not guarantee that your next dc will be.

Stay with your original and practical plan.

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