to be more worried about the fact that i DON'T miss him?

[alwaystired81]

Two weeks ago OH was away for the week with work. Got back last Saturday, this weekend he is away all weekend at a stag do. So once again I am home alone with our 3 children (9,8 and 1) this doesn't bother me as much as the fact that it DOESN'T bother me IYSWIM. I have got to the point where I am feeling "seriously how would my life be different if he wasn't around?" Apart from the obvious financial difference I am struggling to see what would change, he does nothing with the children, never lets me have a lie in despite the fact that baby gets up every morning before 6am and we both work but even on weekends I am the one who gets up with her and he often stays in bed till at least 9 and then often has a bath so is not ready to "interact" with us till about 10am. I do all the washing,cleaning, cooking etc around the house he does nothing. I don't really know what I want you all to say I am just feeling so unhappy and it worries me that when he is away it's not that I miss him it's that I don't Xx

And the plus points are....

This isn't good. I've been married for almost 30 years and we've had 4 children together. I really quite like it when DH is away but when he is here he is 'present' sharing chores, cooking etc and when the kids were little taking charge so I could have time to myself and nights out or weekends away.
He sounds very immature and you have 2 choices, tell him to sort out his attitude or get rid and live a simpler life.

I don't usually comment on these sort of threads but fuck me are you married to my 'd'h. Lazy, sulky, either in bed, the bath or out. Never did anything in the house, keeping an eye on the children was a 'massive favour' to me, twins under 2. I never had a night out or an afternoon off.

He went away for a week, it was a huge relief, told him not to come back. Its been 6 months now. Finances sort themselves out. Seriously - get rid, maybe you won't be happy but you won't be as miseable as you are with him!

Bloody good for you McWeedie!