AIBU to expect STBXH to contribute to DS passport renewal

[feckitt]

I am a full time carer for my Mum so get carer's allowance and some income support. My DS needs his passport renewed. My STBXH has a full time job so I emailed him to ask whether he would be prepared to "contribute" to the cost. His new policy is to not answer any of my emails. What do I do? Why should I bear the full cost? I paid for DS to get a provisional driving license last year. I pick him up from and take him back to uni. STBXH having lost his driving license through drinking and driving. I buy him £40 of food each time. STBXH bought him a case of beer. Typical. I don't want DS to miss out on possibly going to stay with MIL in France this summer but I really can't afford it.

He's at uni! He can fund his own passport.

If he is at uni then he needs to budget for passport out of whatever loans etc he has . Or get some work.

He doesn't have to visit mil. Up to your ds to buy his own passport or ask his dad himself

if it is to stay with his mother,i would just tell mil that son seemingly cant afford to renew his passport and leave it for them to sort out. as things stand, he is pushing it to renew for this summer in any event.

in the nicest possible way, i assume that your son claims on his student finance that he resides with you and hopefully will get max loan and grant based on your income. leave him to sort it out himself.

Is this a joke?

I thought this was a child! He's at uni. He's old enough to either pay himself or ask his dad to contribute himself.

I thought you were talking about a child! If he's at uni surely he sorts those kinds of things out himself?

I think its up to your son to ask his dad to contribute. For everyone's sake (yours included) you should stay out. Your ds is an adult and can manage his own finances.

Leave your ds to sort it out or ask his dad. Your son has passed his 18th birthday and you are now free from having any relationship with your ex!
Well, ok, you ought to be be civil at graduation/ weddings/ christenings but apart from that you don't have to speak to him again.. detach!

I agree with he pays for it himself - past 18 thats his choice. Think my mum paid for my first one at 16 - till then (showing my age) I was on my parents passports. Or if he needs to he asks his Dad to pay - not you.

Is this a joke ??? He's an adult, he should be paying for it himself.

YABU. I'd step back from this completely. He's an adult; he can either find his own funds or ask his father himself.

He is an adult, and as much as I would help my DC with things when they are an adult if I can't afford it then they can't have it.

Your son is an adult. Surely he should pay for it himself?