Customer knows my MIL died today and just rang about something that could have waited.

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My lovely MIL died first thing this morning after several weeks of illness and a gruelling time for all the family.But I worked today and didn't let any of my customers down.DH also works in the business too and has had almost no sleep in the last few days keeping vigil at his mums bedside.This morning a customer texted about something needed for tomorrow and I replied righto,but just to warn you we will be unavailable one day in next couple of weeks as very sadly DHs mum had just passed away, and we would have a funeral.But would give plenty of notice.We walk her dog.
This evening she phoned 'just to check we were ok for tomorrow '- I'd already said we were - and to let us know her requirements for next week.FFS.
Is it me or AIBU.I don't know why I picked phone up.But I would never ring the very evening someone's mum died unless they were close family/ friends or absolutely urgent.She did end by saying sorry about DHs mum,but just an evening to ourselves would have been appreciated.

You were working today. You didn't say you weren't available tonight, just one day in the next couple of weeks. So how exactly was she to know that you wanted an evening to yourselves or left alone or whatever?

Very sorry to hear about your MIL.

In fairness to your customer if you and dh were carrying as usual then she would probably assume you wanted to be treated as usual. Also, if you said she 'just' passed away she might assume if was in the last few days not just as in a few hours away. Having said all that she might just be monstrously unsympathetic and insensitive. Whichever it is, please don't it let it upset you. Your focus needs to be on your family now. Take care.

Was she not checking to see if you were Ok as you might not want to walk the dog tomorrow? You know her best but her motivation might have been concern for you?

Sorry for your loss, I would not of called but with grief I follow the other person lead. Some cope by carrying on as normal, you chose to work and keep the business running as normal and the customer followed this lead, hope you now have a quiet night together.

I'm very sorry for your loss. it seems to me she was just checking you would be ok for tomorrow. to be fair if you don't want to be contacted it's best to put the phone on silent

Agree with previous posters who say she was just following your lead.

Could you be reading more into it due to your grief? Perhaps she was just being nice and checking that you would be feeling up to it tomorrow.

I'd probably be making sure you were ok for tomorrow too if someone just died. Not too be too insensitive but I'd want to know if I needed to make other arrangements. Even if you already said it, I'd want to make double sure so that if you weren't feeling up to it, you had an easy out.

Pretty much reiterated what PP's were saying, but mostly just wanted to add that I am very, very sorry about your MIL. As much as you may want to get on with things, put an answerphone message on your phone saying 'We are unavailable at this time due to family circumstances, apologies for any inconvenience' and then switch it off. Allow yourselves that quiet time that you are clearly wanting.

I think she was trying to be kind and give you the chance to say if you didn't feel like working tomorrow.

I'm sorry to hear about your DMIL

Ok must be me.When I replied by text I made it clear tomorrow would be no problem and I would be there .I also said MIL had just died THIS am.She knew she was ill.She is a lovely person but often rings to 'check' even though I have promptly texted back to requests.tbh it's unnecessary and makes me feel nagged as I've never let her down.i think it's more the fact she went on about next weeks requirements first when that could have waited surely.We're always available short notice and she knows it.it was only as an afterthought she said ' and oh sorry about DHS mum'
Maybe it's me and I'm a bit old fashioned but I would never ring after hours about something that could wait till the next day.
And yes I shouldn't have picked up phone but I'm tired and my non work phone has been ringing with DCs.will feel better after some sleep.

Just to reiterate the main reason for get was next weeks arrangements.Thats what bugged me.

Sorry for your loss but I think it was nice of her to call.