Sorry its too long to fit in the subject box.
I have name changed for this, incase anyone thinks it's an interesting first post, which is doubtful as it is really petty. I just want to know if I am being u.
Bit of background : I will often arrange to meet up with sil (brothers wife) and my dns they're a similar age to my dc and love to play together, plus they're my Dns and I enjoy spending time with them and sil.
sil often cancels last minute to go shopping or because something else came up or took longer than she expected, which is ok, I just don't see our meet ups as being set in stone, I don't see the point in getting annoyed over it.
One of my old friends passed away recently, his funeral is just for close family and friends so a bunch of friends have organised a memorial service for him. It's at a place we all used to go together.
My other sil (my dh sister ) was going to baby sit for us but her dp had a pretty horrific accident this week, he has been in hospital and has had surgery.
We organised with my brother and sil to have my dc instead, I explained the circumstances - friend passing away and bils accident, and said we might not need them but seeing as bil was in hospital we probably would.
Sil (my brothers wife) later called and said dn had overheard the conversation and could we send our dc to them anyway even if dps sister and bil db want to babysit, so as not to disappoint the dns.
I said that they probably wouldn't be able to and left it at that.
Sorry, I know this is long.
Later on in the evening dps sister called and said they're out of hospital and that they're really looking forward to having our dc, bil thinks they will cheer him up.
I txt my brothers wife to explain and apologise, we have plans this weekend any way so we can still see them.
Sil then replies saying we should disappoint sil and bil as they can understand more, and that she is annoyed because she has to be the one to break it to the Dns. She made it clear she was pissed off.
To which I asked her to give me a break, I said my friend has just died, That a missed sleep over is hardly the end of the world. I pointed out that I didn't make fuss when she doesn't meet up with us, and my dc had to deal with it because that's life. I also said that I can't please every one all the time.
Brother then texts to say that he doesn't mind my dc not going over, but my texts were rude, unnecessary and uncalled for, again he made it pretty clear he was pissed off.
So as not to drop feed I have anxiety problems and do have issues with doubting myself and overthinking things.
Which is why I need your help MN, Aibu ? Or are my brother and sil overreacting and making a mountain out of a molehill ?