To think that grown men shouldn't act this way?

[MrsWinnibago]

Lately I've noticed a few men I know (late 30s or early 40s like me) seem to be "flirting" with me in an odd way....bumping into me (quite hard) on purpose or on one occasion grabbing the back of my bike as I cycled along unaware that he'd caught up with me...it's happened twice today already.

These are men I know incidently...both of today's "incidents" were in the street and the shop...I know the men...parents of DC friends...it's happened a lot lately!

What am I doing?

I'm not sure I like it!

You aren't doing anything, they are asserting their right to your time and space. Its attention seeking behaviour.
I would tell them to knock it off in all honestly, if you want my attention speak to me.

perceived right, obviously they don't have any right.

Attention seeking? Why don't they just bloody say something then!? I never quite know how to react as it's always done in a jesty way...

Tell them to get to fuck. And make your face look like you mean it. It's unwelcome- that's all they need to know.

I imagine its like pulling pigtails in school to get the girls attention.
I used to karate chop the boys that did this, perhaps its time to learn a new skill .
Infuriating though inst it? What happened to "Hey MrsWinnibago, how are you?".

Yes- karate chop them. In the neck.

I will consider the karate chop....seriously! I've been startled one too many times today! Failing the chop I might just do that move that the sister does in Ferris Bueller's day off!

Will you do the face afterwards?

Some people can be a bit awkward, wanting to say Hi but not knowing how.
It is odd though, behaviour I'd associate with teens rather than 30s 40s. I'd look so shocked if some man did this to me they wouldn't do it again. If anyone grabbed the back of my bike I'd probably break my leg ! It's all I can do to stay on as it is.
I wouldn't like my dh doing than on another woman, I'd feel very strange if he did. I wonder would they do this if their partners were there too

Q no...I will just do the kicks and then say "Ooh sorry! I thought you were an attacker!"

Jackie I know! It's a bit "off" isn't it?

Oh no pleeeease do the face!

The older a man gets, the less attention most of them get I guess. They are not all George Clooney. So they have to do something to get some attention. The bumping into and pretending its an accident trick is really annoying. I find "Why on earth did you do that?" and then ignoring them and cycling/walking off quite effective.

Recently a man started pressing his leg against me on the bus, so that I was squashed up against the window trying to get away from him. It went on for miles. So I said "Could you move your leg away from mine as its making me uncomfortable?" He denied it, but got off at the next stop.

Then theres the total strangers who try to engage you in pointless conversation. I really like the response "What do you want to know that for?".