AIBU to be upset and hold out for an apology.

[daiseehope]

My DP is not a saint, mostly he's just a bit grumpy but he's really upset me. Just wondering if I'm overreacting? First thing I hear as I wake up.
Son to DP: can't find any socks
(sorting through washing I spent ages doing yesterday)
DP to son: Well this is just fucking sheer laziness! (pointing at pile, and yes referring to me)
Really hurt, he slagged me off to our son. ??

No Funky it wasn't lol. And I certainly don't believe in fairies. I don't know what the hell happening. It got worse as he did return from work and then continued the lazy rant, then left me to face school in tears. Now at work thank god. Thanks so much for replying all of you, it means a lot that someone's there. I feel so sad that I love him but don't want him near me at minute.

I feel utterly flattened.

Google 'emotional abuse' OP & have a good read!

So you both work and yet the whole sock/laundry thing is your domain too? Does he help domestically in any way or is all the house work left up to you? If so, how is that fair? I am a SAHM and my dh wouldn't dream of such a thing let alone say it, let alone swear, in front of the children!! Good grief! Is this unusual or normal? I would seriously consider some sort of counselling prior to getting married.

Just put away yours and your DS's in future, wash your own and your ds's.

You both work so you're not lazy as you're putting yours and your DS's away.

Then when he doesn't put his shit away, be sure to tell him how god damn lazy he is because that's ALL he had to do today fgs.

Even if it was the only thing you had to do yesterday, that's no way for him to respond.
He's not your line manager, you don't work for him.

It is better you go through this now than after you are married. It means it is easier to look hard and decide if you do want to tie yourself to a grumpy critical man.

I think you should do what some others have said and just do yours and DSs cleaning for now. Doing 2\3and him 1\3 can't be construed as lazy at all. Plus I would start to teach DS to do some so he can see what is involved.

Hang on, he's returned on his break and continued to berate you for laziness?!

I rarely comment on relationship threads, I'm single because I'd far rather be alone than navigate the complexities of a relationship so don't think I'm best qualified really but this has just made me so sad for you.

How's your son's behaviour towards you? Does he seem to be more disrespectful? Often an adults lack of respect leads to a child doing the same.

Are you lazy? Some people are so be honest. If you're not please please do something neither you nor your child deserve this! If you are naturally a lazy person you still need to do something! Even if he's right he cannot treat you like that. You deserve more.