To feel let down by DH?

[NoSnotAllowed]

Quite a few months back I booked a special day out for DS1 (who is now 2.5) and myself. I didn't book a place for DS2 (now 15 months) because at the time I didn't know if he'd enjoy it and I thought it'd be nice to have some one-on-one time with DS1.

As it got closer to the event I started to feel quite guilty that I hadn't included DS2. I looked into booking extra tickets for him and DH but by then the price had gone up and we couldn't afford it. I told DH I felt bad and he told me to stop being daft; that he and DS2 would have a special day out together instead.

So the event was today. DS1 and I had a fab time. Got home at half 4 and asked DH what he and DS2 had done together - turns out DH took him into town to run errands for FOUR hours. Then he was going to take him to the local soft play centre but realised it was half 3 and the place would be full of school kids so he just brought him home instead.

Am I being unreasonable to be really disappointed with DH and to feel awful for DS2? I know he's only 15 months so he's not going to realise he missed out today but it feels like DH has a real lack of regard for his feelings.

AF is due any day and I'm a tad tired. Am I being overly emotional?

Over emotional, I think.

DS2 is young enough to have enjoyed being with his dad, regardless of what they were doing, and DH is old enough to know this

I think you are over-reacting. He is too young to notice so you need to let it go

I would be grateful that your husband got 4 hours of chores done while looking after the 15 month old. Can he take him to the playground at the weekend or another time, or for a different mini-treat?

YABVU.

As long as DS2 had a full tummy and an empty nappy, he'll have been happy with his dad!

I don't really know what feelings you're talking about your DH not regarding, but I'm fairly sure that 15 month olds don't have complex feelings about missing out. :o

A 15 month old would probably think 4 hours of zipping around town and hanging out with Daddy is a special day out.

If it makes you feel better why not plan a day out with your DS2 for another time. Am racking my brains though to think of what a special day for a 15 month old would be! A whole day with free access to the kitchen cupboards, some empty boxes and a bubble maker??

I agree with pp. Just going out for a walk is very exciting for my baby at that age.

Yep, YABU, your DC2 doesn't know or care. Your DH sounds great.

Yes, I think you're taking your own feelings of guilt about not booking the tickets out on your husband here... sorry.

The baby has had a special day. With his daddy. And your dh was right not to take him to the soft play at 3.30. He's done fine.

You are going to dig yourself into a hole if you look what each other have done with the dc and then assess it. Children like doing ordinary stuff.

Your DH sounds fab!

A 15 month old will feel 4 hours of errands with just daddy is wonderful. All those new places and no DS1 to remove attention.

I think babies enjoy this stuff just as much as soft play TBH...

You need to relax. Your DS will have had a nice day with his dad regardless of what they were doing. He's only 15 months.

Hmmm ok, thanks everyone. I think a pp has hit the nail on the head - I do feel guilty for not taking DS2 with me as he would have loved it.

I shall try and let it go.

Thanks again