So today was the toddlers birthday. Yesterday dp knew I wanted to get the house clean top to bottom as we had company today, blow up the toddlers inflatable present,wrap his gifts and blow up balloons. All this after getting 4 children into bed. So he says he is just nipping out and comes back nearly three hours later when it is mostly done.
Today he lay on the chair with his eyes closed leaving me to entertain ds and prep all the food for the family (both sides) he laid there for over an hour then offered to take dc for a nap. He stayed with him for another 2 and a half hours.
Then he went to pick up his friends, knowing that 20+ people would be arriving and waiting for him to put the bbq on he still took over an hour to do a ten min round trip.
Then he had bought the wrong type of coal, left them out in the rain and lost the firelighters. So he spent the next hour making a fire out of wood to hopefully put the coals on to cook the food on. I don't know what he was burning but the smell was atrocious so I took a deep breath and cooked the food on the grill. By the time he came in to see what was happening most people had been fed.
He then proceeded to sit outside with his friend while my sister and friend checked everyone was fed, passed out food to all the kids and I cooked. He did nothing.
Then he offered to help clean up, when he had dropped his friends back off, another ten min round trip which again took over an hour.
Am I being unreasonable or should I kick the self centred man child out.
Oh I asked him to put the tiddler to bed half an hour ago. He is still having a grand old town in his new ball pool!