To hate having overnight guests?

[Mrsbagface]

Don't usually do it but have had to this week for a couple of nights. I HATE IT! Yet my friends and family seem to love it. Can't stand having to see other people in their morning state and make polite conversation and just feels like my space has been invaded .... I know I am an anti social cow. But does anyone else hate having overnight guests? Guests who come over for a few hours, fine. But not overnight!!

I hate it too. I hardly ever do it. I like to get up in the morning and potter around in an old tee shirt and spend ages drinking a mug of coffee and not really talking much to anyone.

YANBU , I'm with you I just don't like having people stay over equally I don't like staying at other people's houses - I'd much rather use hotels .

I'm the same. I find it very stressful & I'm not comfortable with it, so I don't do it.

I especially hate other peoples toothbrushes in my bathroom. Or, shudder, my toothbrush holder!!! People, please keep your toothbrushes in your toiletry bag.

Not a fan either, I am an introvert and struggle with being a host all day, rather than a few hours here and there. Perhaps it would be easier if we had more space, but visitors/guests sleep in the lounge.

DH jokes that I took on my present course of study just to have an excuse to escape and sit quietly upstairs when we have guests.

With you on this. The older I get the less I want to do it. Also, I like to come home to my own bed if poss rather than staying at anyone else's.

Yeah I equally hate being a guest, would always pay for hotel. If I ever have to do it eg at ILs over Xmas I'm always in bed early and up and dressed early, can't bear seeing other people in pjs with bed hair and morning breath and not going to inflict myself in that state on anyone else.

LOL, I like having overnight guests but I hate being one myself- I love my own bed far too much!

Why have you had to do it? Just say no if you don't want to.

I do enjoy it but didn't before we had a proper guest room. Having someone sleeping in your lounge is rubbish.

Yanbu. Hate it and hate staying at other people's houses. I so deeply wish we lived about 1 hours drive away from all the grandparents ... far enough away for them to never "pop round" but near enough for day visits, not 3 day visits. Mil and Fil are coming tomorrow and I should be cleaning out fridge etc and doing extra fussy bits of cleaning/tidying. Instead I am frittering away my day on Mumsnet.

These day we only ever have family to stay and that only rarely because it involves international travel.
As for anyone else, I was relieved when dd2 arrived because i could quite legitimately say there is no spare room any longer

I never do it - YANBU.

In my student days it was great - now I like my own space and on my own terms.

I am increasingly like that. I enjoy cooking dinner and entertaining but the next morning really confuses me. Am i supposed to be up and dressed at an early hour to provide a cooked breakfast for my guests when they appear. We never, ever eat a cooked breakfast,

Is it okay to point out where the breakfast stuff is kept and let them get tea, toast, cereal etc by themselves?

The only overnight guests i like are old friends and some family who come regulatory as i know what the expectations are - there are none!

I don't mind it usually. BUT my BIL has been taking the mickey recently...we live in London and he works in London and lodges at ours 2-3 nights a week. Yes we have the space, but it is my space! It is driving me mad, and he is about to get his marching orders. One of the things that annoys me most (there are many) is the fact I have to change the duvet and tidy up when we have legit guests.

I'm pretty outgoing and sociable, fairly extroverted and I really hate it too.

I will go further and say that I hate having people for dinner in my house and hate having dinner at other people's hoses too.

Much, much prefer to meet in restaurant/pub/cafe and always stay in a hotel if I can.

Only exceptions are my Mum and Dad's house (but not PILs) and my best friend since school's house.

Oh yeah, I absolutely can't stand going to someone else's house for dinner. And I don't like being a house guest.

A few weeks ago I posted a thread about us being invited to stay overnight at my DH's-friends-MIL's-house for my DH's friends party. Ordinarily this would make me shudder but our second baby is due any day now which would mean being a house guest in a stranger's home with post natal body stuff going on, a newborn and a toddler. Thanks, but no thanks!

I hate it too. I find it exhausting just doing a meal for guests: not the cooking, which I enjoy, but the business of "hosting".

We don't have overnight guests anymore. First the spare bedroom went (children) & then I somehow persuaded DH that we needed to replace our sofa bed with an ordinary sofa. So now there's nowhere at all for guests to sleep.

I think with me it is connected with being an introvert, even though I'm not shy as such. I just need time to myself. My PIL in particular don't get this at all. They stay at a B&B down the road now if they visit us, but they turn up here at about 9am & expect to be with us ALL DAY.

I actually prefer staying with them now because we can at least go out by ourselves & have more control over what happens. As a host, you can't ask someone to please stop talking & give you some space.

Depends who it is. FIL likes to get up as soon as he hears and and chatter away for hours with me. Before. I. Get. Tea. Hanging offence.

standwellclear that response sounds uncannily like me! That is exactly what I'm like too! I am very sociable, am chatty and always outgoing when in a crowd but I loathe entertaining in my own home. I sometimes do it and when I do so I have a party for friends and neighbours which weirdly makes me feel more comfortable than having 2 people over for dinner!

As for overnight guests I absolutely loathe it. I do everything I can to avoid it. I did used to worry about it and feel guilty but then I decided not to. I do lots of nice things for other people, treat them to nice meals out, organise social events, help out neighbours when they are having a tough time. Everyone has something that they hate doing!

Loon we did exactly the same with the sofa bed! Engineered it so we had no place for anyone to stay!

I don't mind close family coming to stay, as they just muck in and don't expect to be entertained or cooked breakfast for, but I hate anyone else staying.

We had a friend of DH's to stay a few weeks ago, as he was in our neck of the woods, and so I cleaned the room, made the bed, made a special effort with dinner (even made a pudding) - and he arrived with a present for DH, who had done nothing with regard to the visit (admittedly he'd been at work all day) , but nothing for me. As I recall, I cooked a breakfast the next day too. He's not coming again.

Yeah I hate it. I hate staying over too. I like my night to end at bedtime and start the new day with a clean slate.

I hate staying over. I have PTSD and am a horrible sleeper even at home. Away, I rarely sleep above an hour the first night and brokenly the rest of the time.

YANBU. I hate it too. Had in-laws a couple of weeks ago and they took our bed. So didn't even have a bedroom to go and hide in.

Me too. I'm very territorial and apart from one or two people (very close friends/family) I hate having guests or being a guest. I find that guests make unreasonable demands and are thoughtless and I find that most hosts don't know how to host and are thoughtless.

When I lived on the south coast years ago, I had a steady stream of guests all year round, wanting to stay from anywhere from one night to over a month! It was hell. I'll never live in a tourist hot-spot again. Ever.