to think that "you need to get help" is not the adult response to someone asking for an apology

[wheresthelight]

This is really petty but has pissed me off massively today.

"friend" A offered me her double buggy the other week as I have been looking after friend B's dd while she has some hospital treatments and with only a single it means that I am stuck in the house with two under one's which sucks in the glorious weather we have been having

A has messed me about a lot over collecting it but thought fair enough she is giving it me for free so not going to argue. Anyway I heard onnthe grapevine that she had been saying some very nasty and incorrect things about me behind my back so realised that she isn't the friend she makes out she is. Arranged to meet her last week amd she never turned up, never answered her phone or replied to texts.

This week she gets nasty with me for not having picked up the buggy so pointed out that I tried but she didn't show up and then refused to answer her phone and actually she owed me an apology.

Her response "you need help"

Really!?? At nearly 40 surely you are old enough to not act like you are still in the bloody playground??!!

Nasty with you how? Did you see her in person?

That sounds very strange on the face of it, but I'd be interested to hear her side.

Tiffany - no she rang while I was in the shower and left me a really nasty voicemail saying I had wasted her time and she didn't need people like me on her life.

Saucy - meaning what exactly? Short of copying and pasting the conversation I have put exactly what was said

I thought the same as saucy. Sounds as if there must be some sort of back story/crossed wires

Whaaaaaa

Very strange. There must be more to it.

In any case you should not have asked for an apology. She isn't your naughty toddler who needs to be made to apologise. She is an adult and if you don't like her behaviour, you need to step away from her, not chastise her.

No back story! I have only really met her a handful of times as she is friends with someone else

No crossed wires either she had messaged me the morning of collection to confirm the time, I arrived on time and waited over half hour and rang her twice and she never showed up. I left it as had left her a message saying I was there and obviously something had cropped up and could she ring to reschedule

I never asked for an apology I told her that of anyone ought to apologise it was her as I had turned uo at arranged time and she hadn't

heard on the grapevine

Really? so you have lost a friendship over something which might be untrue? When friend A was trying to do you a favour?

Hmmm. TBH and with the greatest if respect you all sound about 12.

You can't know for sure there isn't a back story. It could very well be that the same shitstirrers friends that have been telling you that she's bitching about you, have been doing exactly the same back to her.

Politely - did i say that it had anything to do with what inhale heard? Please read the post amd not what you want it to say

Some people thrive on drama, 'a' sounds like one of them. Stay away, lesson learnt. Though I might have to put her straight on a few things first.

White - it would seem she does. After she got quite abusive when I refused to back down she may have got a fee home truths tbh. She is the sort who has to be the big I am and hates it when people don't cowtow to her every whim. Apparently by not being afraid of her I am in need of help.

Not bothered that she now isn't speaking to me I can live without her drama but just shocked that adults behave like that