AIBU to think you shouldn't invite someone to a wedding if you have no idea what you're actually doing?!?

[Ibizatime]

So DP has been asked to be best man and I have also received an invite.

It's in bloody Malta for a start so there's our holiday for the year

We've got a date and a country and that's it.

I've asked for flight, hotel details etc but apparently we have to discuss all wedding details in person.

But not to worry because they'll pay for his suit but if we don't mind putting towards that's fine to.

Great.

My god why would you send out a proper invite, not a save the date it's a proper invite if you basically have no idea what you're doing!

Not understanding. You cant ring them? They arent seriously expecting you to arrive in malta with no forwarding destination?

I don't understand why you can't research flight details given you have a date? I agree a venue would be good - are you sure that they have one booked? Although - Malta's not a big place - less than an hour end to end, so find a nice hotel and you'll probably be OK.

They aren't my friends, they're dp's from his home town 5 hours away.

I'm of the opinion that they haven't actually booked anywhere and it's just a save the date, but they say different.

Are they not going to tell you at all till you get there?

Well if malta is only an hour end to end then pick a hotel in the middle for that date, book it, then relax. It aint your wedding to stress about!

"Discuss all wedding details in person" - is this a sly way of them hinting they haven't seen you for ages and want to go out for dinner so you can actually talk about arrangements?

How close is the date? Unless it's within the next few months then why worry?

You know you're going to Malta & on what date. If the couple have booked a wedding at a hotel then won't they also have reserved enough rooms for everyone?

If it was me, my only worry would be how much it's going to cost me (because money's tight).

My DD is getting married in Cyprus next year, she has a date, but the venue and place that she will get her wedding licence is yet to confirm.

The venue will be in the site of our Hotel (one if two both sea view), but the place were you do the legal signing but is one of three and only them and their witnesses will be going, possibly.

You book your main bit and then the company slots it all together.

Unless you pay for a seperate wedding planner.

We have to sort out the final details because those travelling with children aren't going AI, it's better to go HB.

So there may be a genuine reason why they need to discuss it with you.

""If it was me, my only worry would be how much it's going to cost me (because money's tight).""

That's what they might want to go over.

One of our family group is booking a villa.

You say how many flights you need, put the deposit down and they will allow for accommodation to be sorted out later, but as a package.

We're going to a wedding in Brescia in September. We know the date and that's it. We've booked our flights. When we get the actual invite with location then we'll book our hotel. Sorry but unless the wedding is very soon I don't see the problem.

I agree with the folks above, we've let people know the date and the city for ours because we wanted them to be able to book flights as early as possible but if we try to book anything here a year away we get this look! Even the hotels don't have prices yet for the date let alone letting you make a reservation!

That said we are only planning to send a 'save the date' until we have actual locations and times for the reception and ceremony - surely they are an essential part of the information in an invitation...?!

I would refuse the invitation.

personally