to think Titanic isn't necessarily suitable viewing for a 6 and 4 year old?

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Particularly if it doesn't finish until 10:30?

Apparently that's what my kids were doing last night at Ex's house. 6yo "accidentally" told me that they watched it "right to the end" and was able to describe what had happened and asked questions about why some people had stayed on the ship and died. And then said "please don't tell daddy off!" They had clearly been instructed not to tell me.

Today was the "practice" day for my 4 year old at big school, so it was a full school day for both kids. Both were exhausted and miserable. They're also poor sleepers and prone to nightmares and sleepwalking, and I have to be careful as even certain CBBC shows have caused upset in the past.

I know that I don't get to dictate what happens when they're in his care, but AIBU to be at his parenting choices?

The time wouldn't bother me but I wouldn't be happy with mine watching that at that age. My eldest is 4 and gets freaked out by finding nemo!

Bloody hell, Yanbu. That would give my DD1 (almost 6) nightmares for weeks. And staying up till 10.30 on a school night?Ridiculous.

Not sure that you can do anything about it though.

Titanic is a 12 rating.
YANBU

No yanbu, the bit that would really piss me off is the " don't tell Daddy off" keeping secrets from Mum situation, he shouldn't be putting that on them, does he do that sort of thing a lot ?
I don't thing there is much you can do though.

Yeah, he does do that kind of thing a lot. The annoying thing is that it's all very easy to have them one night a week, feed them crap and let them do whatever they want. But it's me that has to deal with ratty children, nightmares and broken sleep forever afterwards. Part of me wonders if he's just that clueless or if he's doing it to get at me.

It sounds really frustrating, I would wonder the same tbh. It could just be that if he only does see them one night a week that he really wants to make the most of it, still not ideal though is it, what ever his intentions are.

YANBU. I'm surprised that they sat and watched it all the way through though! It's a long movie and I wouldn't have said that children of that age would find it that interesting tbh.

Tell him in writing that you're not happy about it. You don't need to be overly rude. Just say the children said they'd watched it, and that you don't want them watching 12 films. Mention they were tired and miserable after it. See what his response is. If things ever got worse to the point you were worried about them seeing him, you would need evidence that you weren't suddenly making things up, and that you'd tried approaching him to change things.

With co parenting you have no choice but to accept that he will make parenting choices you don't like.

It is frustrating but this isn't a big enough reason for a court to stop contact.

Can you negotiate so he doesn't have them on school nights?

I know I can't really do anything about it. I'm just bitching, really.

Really, who the hell does that?

*I now realize that there were three "really"s in the above post. I'm tired, dammit.

YANBU. It's not suitable. I watched it when I was 12 and I was still upset by all the dead bodies floating in the water and the idea of the poorer passengers being trapped below deck to die.

YANBU to be, but rant here so that in real life you can be serene.
As others have said it's one of the bummers of co-parenting that you have to accept the different strokes unless the children are suffering or in danger.