To not want to talk about my PND

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I love my MIL to bits, but every time I talk to her she makes a HUGE deal of my postnatal depression, the Prozac, where it must stem from, (must be my childhood, I have a bad relationship that needs to be fixed.. ). I know she cares, but every time I get off the phone I feel worse than I did before. I must hear the word 'depressed' and 'you are depressed' about 100 times in one conversation. My mother, on the other extreme, barely mentions it and we talk as if everything is normal, which I actually find keeps me more positive as I don't feel like I am going mad! Don't get me wrong, things are not hunky dory (but getting better thankfully) so she does have a point, and I know it helps to talk so I wonder why I don't feel like that in this case.. x

Have you told her how you feel or got DH to have a word? She's just trying to show she cares, so tell her you appreciate it but it would be more helpful for you to not keep having it brought up but just carry on as normal.

And while it is helpful to talk, people can be 'too close' to you and you don't want to be 100% truthful in case it reflects badly on you or them. Much better to talk to a professional who can take a step back, not be affected by what you say, and that means you can say everything that's going on in your mind without fear of being judged or upsetting others.