creampie, nothing particularly interesting sadly, just depressingly awful.
MOH left it until the last week to plan anything, despite the other bridesmaid chasing her up constantly in the months and months before. Not in a naggy way but helpful gentle nudges. She said after she wanted to just get it sorted for my sake but didn't want to upset MOH stepping on her toes and she genuinely thought she'd sort something.
In the last week, she invited a small handful of people, intentionally excluded close friends of mine as she didn't like them, and her 'plans' included the few people who could go so last minute going on a tacky night out into our local town, which is a dive.
Btw I wasn't remotely bridezilla about any of the wedding. I wasn't fussed about the hen do tbh, and I would have rather have none than the night turned out to be.
A couple of people we ran into made good natured cracks pitying me for having such a lame hen do- they were actually genuinely convinced we must have been joking we were staying there.
MOH had a sulk on all night... Well the part of the night she stayed. She then went to the toilet and never returned. We rang and rang and she didn't answer. Eventually, several hours later, we got hold of her boyfriend on her phone who laughed at me and said she was home and had just gone to bed.
When asked about it the next day she tried to turn it round that she was badly done by, insinuated she had been spiked as she was soooop drunk so quickly she'd been thrown out of the pub. Obviously this rendered her mobile as unusable? Anyway, daft bint forgot the fact that I knew the bouncer on the door socially and he said when she'd left she was stone cold sober, wasn't in a bit of bother and was taking on her phone on the way out. Walked straight out the door and got into a black cab.
She even then didn't actually apologise and just kept saying she couldn't remember so that she didn't have to come up with any explanation. She then made digs about how uncomfortable she felt because of one or two strangers making the comments they did.
This is the same woman who was supposed to come help set up the venue the day before the wedding and booked a boiler service and a tesco delivery instead. Fortunately the other bridesmaid saved the day on this and every other occasion - to include going out and just buying some shoes for her as she couldnt be arsed choosing any (that I was going to pay for).
She didn't actually have any 'duties', I didn't expect anything of her whatsoever, the other bridesmaid repeatedly offered help and a few times I said that if she was too busy it was fine and id sort a hen do. She said it was fine. When I found out that one week before the do she had actually not had any plans other than to go out drinking somewhere crap I said not to worry, I didn't mind and it was fine to just leave it -not in an arsey way, i was getting married as I love DH, not for a hen do. So she used that one conversation one week before, when it was too late, to say how it was all my fault.
Sorry, longer than I expected as an answer ha ha - but this wasn't even the reason I stopped being her friend. This was just one in many shitty things that made me feel awful, when I never let her down with stuff like this at all. Definitely an eye opener though!