To be a bit hurt upset embarrassed

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Last night I was talking to my husband about something and he commented the woman had s great body - I didn't say anything at the time . But this morning I'm feeling quite angry and hurt/ embarrassed . My body's not like that what does he think of me? !

Yes I guess I will still be left with the same confidence issues - I think I always will . Things are better than they were but I think to some degree , in some situations I will struggle .
I do expect him not to say anything to me and would be really upset if he did again .
But then I wouldn't say that sort of thing to him and I imagine he would be a bit arsey if he thought I was looking at other men.
We have been together 15 years so it's not like he doesn't realise that that's part of my personality .
I suppose friends prob see me as quite confident in a lot of ways and would be surprised by my reaction to this .but my husband knows and knew when we met I would want to be his everything .
Some may find thAt ott . But iv couldn't be with someone who openly said he fancied other woman . Thankfully I doubt that will happen

I think Worra beat me to what I wanted to say.

I do think it's a bit worrying that you had to text him rather than being able to talk to him about it.

I maybe am a bit possessive - I'm not sure why I am . When we met he had a female friend who had been a ex . I explained I wasn't comfortable and I didn't think it would work as she was a big part of his life .i didn't ask him to choose was happy ( at that early stage) to walk away but he cut ties .
Totally his call as was so early in relationship .i explained I would only be happy if I was the only woman ( sexually) in his life .
He said he wouldnt of liked it if had been the other way .

So while I get some people think it's massively ott it's sort of how our relationship is ( both ways ) and has been for many years x

Add message | Report | Message poster ilovesooty Mon 14-Jul-14 21:47:22
I do think it's a bit worrying that you had to text him rather than being able to talk to him about it.

We both work shifts so practically I would of had to of wait until tonight and I knew I would brew on it .also I was quite chewed up and found it easier to text -

Add message | Report | Message poster ilovesooty Mon 14-Jul-14 21:47:22
I do think it's a bit worrying that you had to text him rather than being able to talk to him about it.

U are right tho I should feel more comfortable talking to him .but I often struggle explaining how I feel - he knows this .often il go to talk to him and just clam up ( old issues I'm working on ) so I find it easier to start at least by text if I'm upset - but u are right

but my husband knows and knew when we met I would want to be his everything

What's that got to do with it?

You can still be his everything and this woman can still have a great body

It is not an either/or situation.

My DH knows I'd run away with David Tenant at the drop of a hat, but that doesn't impact on our relationship. Learn to trust.

It sounds as though your husband feels very close to you and is totally honest with you. If it happens a lot and upsets you, discuss it with him.

Bit of an overreaction.

I think Chris Hemsworth has a great body and have commented to DH on that, at nopoint would I compare the two. (Am not entirely sure the Hemsworth boys are human ).

We are married, not dead.