To be this upset at xh's gf being pregnant?

[itchychin]

Been divorced about 4 years, split a year after having our first and only baby DD. He's been with his partner for about 4 years and so it really shouldn't be a surprise.

I'm really upset about it. We had trouble conceiving (him) and it took us 3 years and a round of IVF. He then became 'depressed' for DD's first year and made my life a misery (I don't think he was actually depressed hence the inverted commas I did suggest the doctors it was more he didn't love me anymore). He need to have some 'fun'.

I don't want him back. I don't wish him any unhappiness I think I just feel hugely jealous. However unreasonable it feels like he stole my future (I always wanted more than 1 child but resigned myself after our fertility issues to not probably, and now still single I am too old!) and he now gets to have another chance and I don't.

I think I might also be worried DD (6 yo) will prefer spending time there rather than here as is keen for a sibling (she'll be delighted when she finds out which is a really nice thing).

I cried all afternoon (xh wasn't the most sensitive in telling me) is this normal?!!!

Just seen these further posts! Thank you all for the moral support. He's an okay Dad now to DD, good even. Sees her a lot and we get on okay.

I LOVE the point of view that I actually got the happy ending (sorry can't remember who said it!) and I shall keep reminding myself of it

I would hate to make his gf feel bad. He's probably a bit scared of messing it up again. I'm less sad now and more annoyed he was so blaise (sp?!) in how he dealt with telling me. I shall let it go though!

Thanks again x

And agree it's disgraceful rounded buttocks that any partner would do that.

I totally understand and I was the new dp.
Whilst being over the moon I was pregnant I was aware that exdps ex would feel it. She did put up with his shit for 20 years whereas my tolerance threshold was a lot shorter.
On the plus side he is a loving dad to all the kids, just a shit partner.
YANBU, its just a natural reaction.