to think getting a tattoo of your new gf's DS is weird?!

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So my judgy pants are on and high. Oh well.

However aibu to think when you've been with your bf for 3 weeks whom you got with a week after splitting up with your ex and met in a club the day before he shouldn't be getting a tattoo of your 6 month old. That's a tad red flaggy right?

I'm struggling to think why you'd do that however this mum is known widely for using her DS's as an accessory rather than a child

him* not it

Ok so she's 18 and an immature 18 at that. Honestly I'd be less inclined to judge her as you are OP and more inclined to be very worried about her and her baby. What type of man does she go for? Are they much older? controlling? plain nasty? Only because I know 2 women who have had multiple children taken away by SS and one of the many reasons is their piss poor judgement. They pick the same awful men over and over again and each time they sink a little lower.

Poor girl and poor baby.

This is very odd, why would a virtual stranger want a tattoo of a child which is not his on his arm

I'm glad she has her parents' support, cos with friends like you, OP.

Yanbu. But it sounds like the girl needs some help and support.

Are you her friend op? Because you seem to be giving her a real kicking on here.

The blokes an idiot, she sounds like an idiot too.

But if she was my friend (unlikely) I wouldn't be talking about her like this, you seem to find real joy in her/her ds situation.

OP I know you're using this to have a good vent and I'm sure you love your friend/relative very much really.

But seriously, has anyone professional been involved in her disastrous parenting career so far?

What's your connection to them OP?

No professional has been involved because her parents don't want the child taken away.

The parents have no choice but to support her whoever said that in the pp about me not supporting her. she lives with them so will literally just get up and go out clubbing and leave the baby with them. They've told her many of times they don't want this and it's her baby but she doesn't care

The boys are all ways around18-25 not bad boys but still wanting the clubbing partying scene every day instead of a meal and tv with the family day.

It's really sad that the babie's grandparents are too scared of losing him to ask for help. But despite what the tabloid press says, social services don't take children into care at the drop of a hat! In fact they very often breathe a sigh of relief if they find there is a supportive extended family and are very happy to involve them.

No professional has been involved because her parents don't want the child taken away.

If she lives with her parents, and her parents are ensuring the baby is cared for, then SS won't want to take the baby away. They've enough to do for other children who are not be adequately cared for by anyone.

Mind you, they also may not provide any support for exactly the same reason.

I think it's a great idea to have a relative stranger's name/ face tattooed onto your skin forever.

Makes for interesting conversation years down the line when you meet a prospective new partner.