to be a littled peed off with school?

[InSummer]

Back story... Claimed free school dinners for DD to try. Didn't like them, but thought oh well the school will get this funding. Didn't know what pupil premium was but when I found out I thought well it's a govt thing, no harm done.

Even though DD was back on packed lunches within a week, the school cater for her as pupil premium on school trips. I've told them not to give her their packed lunch as well as mine, but they do. Slightly annoying considering she is healthy and solid but got told she was overweight by the foundation stage weighing thing. This only happens now and then so not too fussed.

Anyway, today DD comes home with a 'special' patronising book bag for the summer holidays with activities 'put together by parents as we know how the holidays can be hard.' Or words to that effect.

In DD's words she has it "because I'm on free dinners". Apparently if they do it they stand up in front of assembly and get a certificate. There is 4 out if 30 in DD's class who got one, so surely the other children will ask why? DD seemes to know why.

Am I over reacting if I take it back in? I just feel like the children have been singled out.

I wasn't giving you an answer deakymom, I was suggesting a possibility. If you want to know, ask the school.
If you're not happy with the way the school is educating your daughter then deal with it and complain. (Follow the proper procedure, start first by speaking to her teacher or head of year).

Peekingduck you have summed up exactly what I mean.

With regards to the packed lunch as well, I mentioned it because to be told that your child is having two packed lunches against your wishes is just silly. I was gutted when I got the letter from the weight check at school to say she was just over what she should be. Now I have them giving her two lunches and telling me how to occupy her.lol.

Yeah I get that. But I do think it would have been better to have arranged to give the children the certificates during reading time in a little group or something.

But that would be singling them out in a bad way.

I bet there are loads of certificates given out for attendance, spelling, having a big smile etc given out in assembly and I bet many pp kids never get them.

This is a way of getting the pp kids up in front of the school to give them a certificate.

Thanks Op. Well, you know what to do if you want to do something about this. A word with the HT could be very productive.

The issue of how to deal with giving pp pupils materials and support is something I really struggle with getting the balance right. If you do it in 'secret' and not in front of other pupils then it somehow suggests it is something to hide and therefore be ashamed of.
Kids know whats what and will be aware of pupils who don't pay for their school meals so you can't hide it.
I think handing out stuff in assembly is too far the other way but I disagree with those who say it's something that can't be done in front of other pupils. If you don't hide it the vast majority of kids just accept it and don't cause problems; It's not understanding why other pupils are given more support or help that causes the issues.