WIBU to not go to work tonight?

[Caff2]

Yesterday, my much loved cat was killed by a car. I buried him in the garden this afternoon. Then, this afternoon, my mum called to say my granddad had died.

I am meant to be working tonight in the chip shop, but I feel really tearful and a bit wobbly.

It's only my second shift; I don't want to lose my new job or seem unreliable, but I feel so upset. I'm working tomorrow night too - WIBU to call in off tonight?

Could you call them, tell them what has happened, tell them you feel wobbly and see what they say? Gives them the chance to be nice and say, "don't come in". IYSWIM.

sorry, meant to say sorry for your losses.

Aww your poor thing, sympathies for you.

Under Normal circumstances i'd say no, but if you only have done one shift they probably won't have much compassion for you so if try to go.

Give them a call and tell them what happened. Say she can come in but are wobbly. See what they say. X

I'd phone and say that your mum's just phoned you and your grandad's died. I wouldn't mention the cat, if the shop owner doesn't have pets, they are less likely to understand that than a bereavement in your extended family.

I think you should go in as you are new.

It may even be good to take your mind off things for a few hours.

I would definitely give them a call - and explain your situation. You could say that you are feeling very upset and wanted to give them a heads up before you come in so if something was to happen at work (teary moment, needing to take a phone call from relatives) they are aware.

They may say "Sorry for your loss, we will see you later" or they may offer you the night off. I wouldn't pitch for it because it's the second shift, but letting them know what is happening would help everybody if you are very wobbly and emotional at work.

I am sorry for your losses

Thank you all - I will call and see what they say. The boss is really very nice, and I don't want to let him down, and I don't want to lose the job either!

I know it sounds daft, but I almost feel more emotional about the cat - it's like granddad dying on top of that seems a bit unreal, iyswim?

Yes call them but no don't mention the cat. Just tell them you are willing to go in but you feel quite wobbly. As it's only your second shift you need to make the call.

So sorry about your cat and your Grandad.

If they've got a problem with you taking a day off the day after a grandparent has died, then you probably don't want to be working there.

Thank you - I just tried to call but I only have the work number, and they're not open yet so it goes to answer phone. Now I don't know whether to leave a message to call me or what to do! I'm not usually this pathetic, honestly, I just feel a bit all over the place.

I agree call and tell them about grandad but don't mention the cat

My grandfather was my last grandparent, and I was meant to visit him tomorrow and I feel irrationally guilty that I didn't see him.

Sorry about your cat and your grandfather .

How long is your shift. If it's a few hours maybe you can just battle through but only if you want to. IYSWIM

Do you need to go and support other family members? Have you arranged to meet up with anyone?

Shift is from 6.30 until 10.45. I haven't arranged to meet anyone, but my mum has called a few times; she's quite distressed really. She doesn't know I'm meant to be working tonight, as I hadn't told her because she's been so upset. I've had a really quite terrible year all told and these two things today have really thrown me.

I really don't know what to do.

Sorry for your losses ,but I would go to work - it's only a few hours and if you're not able to cope I'm sure they'll send you home , which is better than calling in on your second shift.

I phoned and got through just now, I did tell about the cat too, it all just came out! - He said "My God, don't play the lottery this week! Your luck isn't in, see you tomorrow".

I'm glad your boss was ok, it sounds like it's for the best you don't work.

Look after yourself. Are you able to visit you Mum?

Thank you, will see mum on Thursday; she has been caring for granddad at home since granny died two years ago and whilst they had a very difficult relationship historically, I think it has hit her quite hard.

Try and go to work, leaving them short at short notice wont go down well.

Getting your mind off it may help

Your boss sounds great! :)

Glad you boss was nice. Sounds like a keeper...

Thank you, yes, will take tonight off and go in fresh tomorrow evening x

I'm so sorry for the loss of your grandad and you cat, take it easy.

Thank you