Stuck in a decade long rut - please help.

[gigglygirlygirl]

How do you get out of a rut?

I just seem to be stuck - same job for 10 years, lacking in confidence, overweight, not owning my own home, and feeling trapped.

I am not bright but I do have some qualifications and I know I will never be a high flying career girl!

It just feels like I have never lived my life for myself and I am torn between thinking it is now or never to make a change and feeling guilty about letting people down.

How do you figure out what you actually want, when you have lived your whole life for other people, before it is too late?

Have you thought of seeing a life coach

I read 'How to do everything and be happy' by Peter Jones.

I second the life coach suggestion.

Have a look at Suzy greaves big life programme- free with a charity donation voluntary. Some great stuff.

There aren't really any life coaches around here but I could look into a telephone one.

I just feel like the longer I carry on in my current job the less confidence I will have in trying to get a job anywhere else.

I could have written this post giggly , so am marking my place

I'm marking my place, too.

Me too, I turn 40 soon and just feel I have no direction and no challenges. I am a bit sceptical about life coaches as I cone across some people purporting to be "life coaches" who just seem to want money to tell you to breathe deeply

I am almost 28 and it feels like I just live in a rut. I don't want to feel like this for the next 10, 20, or 30 years!!

How about just baby steps/ exploratory steps for now? Find an evening class? Anything! You don't have to do it for the rest of your life? Look at some volunteering websites for ideas? Try taster sessions of different sports? Don't think of making drastic changes yet, just small little ventures out of the rut? That way maybe it will feel less scary but might lead to new ideas/learning more about yourself and what you are capable of/enjoy

I have done a few evening classes and some qualifications through work. I am shy but can engage with people quite easily if that makes sense.

I am just realising that I don't want a high flying job and I don't want to apply to be a manager as I am just not cut out for that sort of role.

I like admin work which probably sounds crazy and weird to everyone. I don't want to be rich. I just want a job that I quite like and not one that has me dreading going in because of all the pressures.

My husband went to a career coach and found it really useful. You don't have to let people by by doing things for yourself, it can benefit your family to see you grow in confidence. I've just changed job after 10 years - it's not easy but shakes things up! Good luck!

My husband went to a career coach and found it really useful. You don't have to let people by by doing things for yourself, it can benefit your family to see you grow in confidence. I've just changed job after 10 years - it's not easy but shakes things up! Good luck!