I probably am so best I vent on here than at her.
When I got married my mums side of the family did not come to my wedding. One family group told me that they would be there but never showed up. We wasted money on food for them etc. I've never had an explanation or apology from any of them. They have just carried on as though nothing happened. I've not seen them since either as the family only gets together rarely.
One of these non attendees is getting married and has sent out invitations. I have no intention of going. My mum has just told me that she is thinking of attending. I'm feeling really hurt and let down by it. She knows how upset I was at my wedding when it dawned on me that people were not going to turn up. It feels disloyal of her to tell the truth.
I've supported her through a tough time the past year, none of these family members have bothered with her. She doesn't see or hear from most if her family for years at a time. So I'm not really sure why she is considering going really.