back story.
my parents divorced 5 years ago (non adultery reasons) my dad made it very difficult for my mum to get the divorce and refused to co operate to the point of him nearly being jailed for wasting courts time.
he was and is still extremely bitter about my mum leaving (i don't blame.her for leaving he was very controlling and verbally abusive).
when i had my first child he was still saying very hurtful things about my mum so i told him i wouldn't let him see dd if he said anything bad word about her in my presence. (its not fair on me or dd) for a while he was there and would take us out places but that stopped over a year ago when i announced i would be getting married. i told me i had to choose between him or my mum going.
so in Jan this year i got married with my mum there. he was invited to the reception which was a month later. he turned up late.... just in time to eat then left an hour later. he never said congratulations or even said i looked nice. as he left early he didn't hear the announcement that were expecting in October! and he found out second hand from a relative.
so last time i herd from him was March. he turned up randomly at my house the week before fathers day. he spent the whole time talking to dd... didn't even ask if i was ok (actually been off work and very sick with pregnancy and threatened mc but he never asked so i didn't tell him). dd told him she's so excited to go to.school soon and my dad didn't believe she was going.... yes she is she's old enough (just) for this years intake and is very ready for it. anyway after an hour he left he had nearly said 2 words to me at all and was all about dd. and i havnt herd from him since.
so i got a call from my sister today informing me that my dad intends to be with me to take dd on her first day of school in September and then travel to collect sisters dd.
he hasn't been in contract with me yet to ask.
WIBU if i completely blow my top at him if he does ask to gate crash this very special day.
he hasn't been in dd life in over a year not due to an argument... he just stopped coming round. he can't suddenly reappear at over the summer as he is going to the states all of August. (missing her birthday for 4 years in a row ... dd due to be 4).
WIBU? pregnant lady extreme rage i want to him with a rolling pin (i was making biscuits when i was told his plans).