to have done sweet fa all day while OH looks after baby all day

[WhatsMyAgeAgain]

Really not sure if im being a lazy cow and should pull my weight more, or if actually, a "day off" at the weekend is ok.

Husband works full time and is absolutely great with our 8month old, and does more than his fair share of the housework (I'm so lucky to have him). I'm nearing the end of my mat leave. I'm bored, im exhausted- I've discovered I'm just not a baby person.

During the week my husband sleeps in the spare room while baby and I cosleep- frequent wakings. If baby wakes early, DH takes him while getting ready for work, so I get an hour maybe to myself. If DH is back in evening, early enough, he has baby, bathes him, then I put baby to bed.

Today, my DH has done everything- I even expressed in the week so they went out for a few hours. DH is currently bathing DS while I know he really wants to be watching the football.

He loves spending time with our son, but am I taking the piss by doing pretty much nothing all day (a couple of bfs, breakfast and a bit of washing up and laundry) while DH, who is works full time in the week, does all the childcare and stuff around the house? He would never tell me to pull my weight and I just can't see if the balance here is ok.

You've done stuff, enjoy the rest, as it sets you up for the week.

I'd probably suggest he watches the football now if he wants to

I think it's fine that he has a day with DS (and if you've done laundry, breakfast and washing up that isn't nothing) but I would probably offer to do the bath since you know he'd like to watch the football.

Saturday is my day of rest, DS is awake all the time. I need this day where I stay in bed and snooze off and on all day.

Your DH sounds very supportive.

If you need to rest you need to rest.

Barring the bfs and co-sleeping this sounds like the early days of my DS and I absolutely adored getting the time with him. Enjoy.

I think we all deserve a day off now and then. I hope you've enjoyed it, don't spoil it by feeling guilty! But i don't think it would be fair if that happened every weekend, your husband might feel you are taking advantage, he needs time off too.

Put the football on for him getting downstairs.. it's the little things. He sounds awesome.

Well I do this.
Did it today actually.
My girls are 18months and 3.8. Today I had a lie in. Then sent them out with their Dad and now he's doing baths.
I've done some house work, made tea and shopped. But had a bit of a rest and some time to myself.
DH works full time and does help with the kids in the week. Not that helpful around the house.
I feel no guilt at all. The time with the girls is very important for him and them.

As a SAHM I wouldn't get a day off at the weekend. His job is no more important or tiring than my 'job' I think sharing the jobs and childcare over the weekend is perfectly fair. Everyone gets a bit of a break.

It's really important to have some time to recharge the batteries.

When does your dh get his time? Does he have a couple of evenings to himself? Will you be mostly flying solo tomorrow? These questions are not intended to be goady. I'm just seeking clarity on the situation.

What a fab set of responses. Glad that others have similar experiences.

He does get some down time- gym or a run a couple of times a week. We share childcare and housework most of the time when he's off, but I'll quite often take the baby out for a bit on a Sunday afternoon for him to have a nap. I hope that's enough for him. He's just not a complainer.

He's been my rock the last 8 months- I really don't want to take advantage and have him start resenting me.

Yanbu sounds like you two work together well as a team and have balance and that either will pick up slack as needed etc.

Don't feel guilty!

Does he get tomorrow off? If i've had a really lazy day I make up for it the following day.

I think it's really important that babies and children trust their fathers to be able to care for all their needs, I think it's really great that your dp and ds get that time together and also important that you get a rest.

My dp is very open about feeling like going to work is like having a holiday when compared to caring for our high energy toddler. We usually do things as a familiy at the weekends but dp is "on duty" so he does all the nappy changes, wakes up with ds, cleans up after ds has eaten and generally runs after ds and plays with him.

Sounds like you have a decent balance.

I would have offered to do bathtime if he had done the whole day but if he is okay about it then I don't think you are being unreasonable.

I'm a single mum to a 3 year old who spent the day with my mum today.....I'm not ashamed to say that rather than do the cleaning I had a 4 hour nap infront of the T de F

Sounds like you make a great team! Xx

He sounds just like my DH and I so so so blessed to have such a hands on husband.

Enjoy it!