To want to have shouted something back?

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Out in the garden and lots of children playing in the neighbourhood.

Out of nowhere a very very loud aggressive voice shouts "if you do that again I'm going to whack you even harder now get to your room"

He shouted something again a couple of minutes later but couldn't hear what.

Me and DH were pretty shocked and quite sad.

Aibu to be shocked/sad?

And had DH and DS not been there, I would have shouted back something along the lines of "it's disgusting to whack anyone / maybe someone should whack you" etc etc.

Aibu? I think I'm not but I don't know if my reaction was extreme or not. But to hit someone, and then to threaten to whack them harder? :(

It's more that I have never threatened violence to anyone - DH for instance, despite having a hot temper (hence my immediate reaction to want to shout back!). Not a good thing of course.

I am sure I will be shouty and offer many a threat in the future. This is actually a good lesson to me to work on that before I do get into situations with DS where I want to shout. Because I don't want to do that either.

I think it healthy to reflect on issues like this. I think it inches me forward to be being a better parent.

I recentyl told my DS off for something but I shouted - I apologised afterwards fro shouting but not for what I said. I explained that i should have said the same thing without shouting.

I also explain if i am tired/grumpy and shout that it is not his fault. Its unfortunate my neighbours may only here me hurrying him along on a morning but dont get to see/hear all the fun, love and laughter at other times.

I try to think of this when I see/hear other parents.

Sometimes parents just reach their limits and issue threats or slap their child. Its wrong yes but its not in the action its their reaction to their own behaviour that is key. Now I am not talking about beating a child before anyone piles in but a slap on the hand or similar.