To wonder if everyone's she does this when moving house?

[Orangeanddemons]

Hires a van, rushes round in said van all day doing stuff.

Never ever gives a though to the feeding/ entertaining-looking after of dc. Meanwhile you are trying to unpack, clean, sort and provide all the childcare.

Then gets all when I say something

I don't have a she, they don't sound very helpful though.

I think you might get a bit more sympathy if your title made more sense!

Not sure what you mean but moving day is stressful for everyone. Presumably, the rushing around in the van is related to the move and, while annoying to you, is probably essential to actually getting moved?

Well you just described my he actually, drives around all day faffing working about and them comes home expecting clean clothes, children fed, entertained, dinner ready etc etc, but hard when I have been working all day too

You must be coping just fine if you can still find time to MN

Assuming that you are complaining about your partner, it sounds as though you just have a reasonable sensible division of labour - one of you concentrates on the moving and the other deals with the kids, food and sorting things out so you have the bare essentials available asap at both ends.
If you haven't dicussed this before moving day, then I would say you are both at fault to failing to agree what was in each of your remits, but I'm not sure how the move would happen if you were both focussed on the children and neither of you were doing the van loading and rushing around.

I don't have one like that but our last moving day went like this:
Him: picks up van and mate first thing in the morning, starts to move the big stuff. Picks up breakfast for everybody on the way back.
Me: makes sure DC's are up and dressed ready for breakfast when Dad gets back. Start to box up the last bits and pieces.
Both of us: load up van and completely forget about the DC's who are happily playing in the garden. For 2 hours. We only remember them when my Mother turns up with an offer to take them out of the way.