To be negative about graduation?

[Addydas]

I do not want to come across as miserable (but probably will) but my graduation is coming up in a few weeks and I will be going to it with my dp and possibly a friend.

No one in my family will be coming, in fact no one in my family is interested or has been interested in me going to uni. My own mother has zero interest and has never asked me how my course is going, what results did I get actually even the basic HOW ARE YOU when I spoke to her last week for the first time in a year [she wanted to borrow money and tell me the latest family dramas. (The relationship with her is a different story) but aibu unreasonable to be feeling negative and a bit bitter about attending my graduation with no family there.

I had an exhibition and I had NO ONE there and class mates had mums, dads, aunties etc and I was feeling a little embarrassed.

(I realised this is going to come across as juvenile) but even for the meal afterwards I have cancelled because I have about three people to invite. Fed up!!

This sucks

You might get people come on here and say graduation is boring for those attending, it's just one day, it's not representative, bla bla bla - but I think it is. More so that they didn't attend your exhibition, how cruel.

Sod them, have a lovely day out with your DP & mate and go for grub in a tapas bar or somewhere a bit less formal than a sit down & eat place after.

Grats on your degree!

Thanks trufflesnot. I should just go out but feel its a waste of time. It is supposed to be a celebration but time will tell.

Don't let them ruin the day for you. Go with your DP if you want to go.

I graduate next week. I have lovely family and friends (inc a DH and 2 kids) but have chosen to go alone. Personally I do not see what the fuss is about - I am also not doing the whole gown thing - but will watch the ceremony from another room.

It's a shame that you aren't getting family support, but it's probably more worth celebrating the fact that you have achieved this on your own without the input of those who would normally be 'expected' to offer you at least some kind of assistance. Graduations are boring, but you don't go to be entertained, you go to show that you are proud of the person graduating, so it sounds like you have chosen the right people to share your day with! Congratulations!

dont worry about it - at least you have partner and friends there .
when I graduated my mum told me that such ceremonies were only for people celebrating the first degree in the family
and my dad said 'I would love to come' which meant 'no'

YADNBU

Even though Graduations are boring (even to the point that some people don't go to their own ) I still think your family should be there for you purely because of how much it means to you. They should see how excited and proud you are and so want to be a part of it.

Go with your DP and your friend and try to feel good about what yoy have achieved. I'm starting college in august and hopefully uni next year, my family are supportive but ultimately it's my goal and career and i'm proud of myself for taking the leap.

I'm not all that clued up about what happens at a graduation but if you don't want to do the formal meal etc go out with your dp and friend after and enjoy yourself in your own way. You've worked hard for it and deserve to celebrate surely!

Sorry to hear that. I think you've done really well to do it on your own without your family though - I'm not sure I would want them sharing in a celebration of something they hadn't contributed to. YANBU to feel sad, but well done on your achievement.

Oh sweetheart that's horrible.

I am proud of you and I don't know you.

You go and go out afterwards and be proud of yourself.

and

And I think your mother is a daft old cow!

Thank you for the kind words!! General consensus is to fuck 'em and go celebrate then lol.

This is one of those moments where although it will be tinged with sadness, you really have to focus on the people who ARE there for you, who value you and your achievements. It's tough, but possible. Remember that quality is better than quantity, although easier said than done when you're at an exhibition and everyone else has hundreds of relatives milling round. However, the flip side of this is that you've done it all by yourself, with no support from family, so you should DEF go, take a leaf out of Walt Whitman's book and "celebrate yourself". You are frickin awesome, and if your family dont see it then it's their loss.

Yes but you didn't get your degree for your crappy mother or anyone else - you got it for YOU and so you should bevery proud of yourself. Sod anyone else