To want to use my garden while ds is ill?

[NamasteGirl]

Ds has chicken pox. We have been confined to the house and are going stir crazy. This morning I suggested we do a tea party for his teddies and we went out to the garden for some fresh air with all the stuff. As we walked out I saw my (pregnant) neighbour over the fence hanging a towel out to dry. I said hello and warned her that ds has chicken pox. She said 'oh, I wanted to be out here today' and just kinda looked at me. So There was this awkwardness and I felt that she wanted us to go so I said 'right well we will go back in then' and she kinda said well its just that Ive got friends coming over later. I said we just need a bit of fresh air, we cant go out anywhere else, and we will go inside in a while so we wont be atound her this afternoon. I felt like maybe she was a bit unreasonable though?

And then me and ds went out there fo five mins just before bed and neighbour's partner was out there and he blanked me.

So you were in your own (fenced) garden? YANBU and I think she was being rather precious. As far a I know chicken pox wouldn't jump the fence and if she was that worried she should have gone indoors.

I don't think Yabu. I'm not sure of the proximity needed to keep away, but in this situation I'd feel kid trapped in house trumps pregnant woman.

Was your ds coughing and sneezing a lot or something?

I thought you had to actually come into contact with the weeping spots in order to catch chicken pox from someone.
Was your DS likely to be able to come into actual contact with her. If not then I can't see a problem with you both being out there at the same time.

Why didn't you just call out "Good Evening" or "Hi, nice evening/glad the rain's stopped/lovely day/whatever".

It's much harder to blank someone when they're speaking to you pleasantly and he may not have seen you, or heard you, or he may have been deep in thought and 'miles away'.

That's mad! Go in your garden and let your little boy get some fresh air and sunshine, it'll do you both good. If your (precious) neighbour was that worried she should have gone inside ...not you. Its your garden, she can't stop you using it.
Hope the chicken pox clears up soon.

Christ, my two had chicken pox, back to back, two weeks each, so a while month of the summer in confinement, if I couldn't have gone in the garden, if have ended up being committed.

You have every right to be in your own garden.

I don't think YWBU at all, when my dcs 1&2 had chicken pox it was boiling hot and they spent most of the day in the back garden in a paddling pool filled with bicarb soda.

I've read that chicken pox can be transmitted airbornely (is that a word? It is now) but only when in the same room - surely the risk is very minimal outdoors. In different gardens. It sounds as if your neighbour is being a bit precious. Is she particularly at risk from cp?

YANBU your neighbour sounds nuts!

i would say if you are each in your respective gardens then she is being ridiculous....what about strangers in public?

Unless she is not going out AT ALL and the garden is her only exposure to outside she is more at risk on the school run (for instance)

so, YANBU! and she is so BU

Go out, if she says anything, blank her. You cannot be expected to refrain from using your own garden, you're not going to suddenly and unexpectedly launch your kid over the fence at her, are you? :o

I'm pretty sure chicken pox can be harmful to a unborn baby if the mother has never had chicken pox.

Yanbu she could of stayed indoors and not disturb your time if she felt there was a risk

YADNBU. Chicken pox requires fairly close contact and certainly wouldn't jump a garden fence. I fully understand her instinct to be all PFB - I had whooping cough while pregnant with my first and nearly died - but again, there was not even close to a risk with each of you in your own garden and a fence between.

Has she had chicken pox? If she has then there's no risk! But even if not she can't expect you to stay out of your own garden, if she wants to avoid your ds she'll have to stay in the house.

I think it's a bit cheeky of her to expect you to go indoors.
I was overly terrified of things like that when I was pregnant but understood it was my issue, my pregnancy so my choice to hide away like a hermit.

She was unreasonable, but you invited this by warning her that ds had chicken pox, and then by offering to go back in. You were not duty bound to warn her. Different garden, none of her concern. If you hadn't warned her, then her awkward stare wouldn't have happened.

Was she expecting the cooties to make a trek across the property boundaries?

You should tell her to stay out of her garden altogether unless she wants the toxoplasmosis to attack her from the flowerbeds.

In classrooms, so a closed environment where children share desks, chairs etc, chicken pox usually spreads amongst the closest friends of the first child infected, then their closest friends and so on. So close, regular contact. It is extremely unlikely she could catch it from you being in the next door garden, unless your gardens are tiny!

Unless you planning to launch your child over the fence then she is def being v unreasonable

Anyway just because she is pregnant as long as she had chicken pox she is fine which most people have.
I came into contact with chickenpox whilst pregnant. Midwife was not bothered.