To go NC with my family?

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Just feeling so with my family. I live in a different country and no one ever bothers to get in contact with me. It is always me who initiates contact. I mean is it that hard to write or skype just to ask how I am doing? This all came to a head this week when a family member sadly passed away. Someone very dear to me. One of my sisters knew that said person was in hospital as another relative told her and said to pass on the information but no one said anything. The same relative contacted me and gave me all the details but sadly the family member passed away. We had a good chat about the family member and all our memories, it was really nice, but, after this fact not one of my immediate family has written/skyped me to ask me how I am feeling, knowing full well this person was very close to my heart. The only communication I got was from the first sister who knew all along about the situation to write, "Oh did so and so tell you family member had died." So that´s a nice tactful message, not even a skype?! I just feel so let down. I have no family members here and feel so out of the loop. Would I be unreasonable to go NC with them all to see if any one of them ever contacted me again?

They won't change. So either put up with it or walk away.

Don't go NC to provoke a response - my guess if you will be disappointed.

I am (almost) NC with my siblings. Life is immeasurably better in the periods when I don't have to have contact. Put your energy into the positive things and people in your life.

YANBU, but as Queen said, don't do it to provoke a response as you will only feel worse. I am very low contact with my family and it's much better for me, but it has underlined just how insignificant I am in their lives as it doesn't seem to bother them at all.

Thanks Queen and Cailindana, I guess it´s all still raw and i´m very angry and upset. I am just sick of being the one who makes all the effort all of the time.

I know how annoying that is. Tough as it is, the best thing in the long run is to try to detach and not expect a level of care that you just won't get. Counselling might help. It still stings that my "dad" doesn't want to see my children, and that my mother didn't really care I had depression. But I'm not angry about it, more resigned. It's shit, and always will be, but I try not to be bitter about it.

Sorry to hear about your family, and thanks for your words of wisdom.

Just stop initiating contact, you'll soon see who wants to stay in contact with you.
We lived abroad, I did all the calling/emailing etc. So one year I stopped bothering, took my own Mum over 6 months to notice and start to call, and email first, we've had a much more equal relationship since. Sister however never did bother. Now she has moved abroad she is contacting me more often and so I have started to message and email her more often too.