Ive name changed, and will have to alter somethings apart from the main issue to keep the nursery anonymous, Im not here to bitch about my childs nursery - I genuinely need to know who or what is unreasonable. And what the fuck I should do.
My child 2 years 10 months has severe allergies to dairy, egg and banana.
DC was supposed to start nursery in April, but the day we arrived, the manager told me their epipen training had run out and they had to be re-trained.
So DC didnt start until June.
DC has been there for a few weeks, and absolutely loves it. Has a best friend and loves being there.
Today I picked DC up and there was hives on the jaw line and chin. I asked the manager who said "Oh yeah I noticed scratching earlier" she hadnt given pririton, despite me having written it clearly in the 'plan', that hives and itching always need medicating. Antihistamine can make the difference between needing adrenalin or not.
I saw the other kids had cheese for snack and I said 'the kids wash their hands after though dont they?'
She said "No that would take forever! We already cant go on the field because of him!"
I -passive aggressively admittedly- said 'I hope it doesnt kill him then' and she laughed and said I doubt it.
I was dramatic yes, but it was in response to her field retort. However,if cheese touches his lips or mouth there is a massive risk of anaphylaxis.
(He recently rolled in some grass and was covered head to toe in hives, I told her and she just said 'we wont go on the field then', I was going to suggest she just gave me warning to I could dress him in long sleeves and trousers those days).
I fucked up big time and put it on facebook. Stupid bastard facebook Im such a stupid idiot. Why the hell didnt I think that through? I never mentioned names or the nursery name but I put it up all the same - because Im a twat who clearly types before she thinks.
She gets told (I know who it was- like I said, Im stupid) and she calls me in.
She denies EVERYTHING. She re-worded everything of what she said (which changed twice in the 5 minutes I was in the office). She said she never said those words and that she never laughed.
She fucking knows she did, she handled it badly, (I too handled it badly by asking for advice in facebook) but there are no witnesses and she denied it. Course she would!
I cant trust her at all, she lied, denied, resented my son "we cant go on the field because of him" and put him at risk.
But my son loves it there. Absolutely loves it.
Should I just risk it, and get over the fact that she denied our real conversation? Shall I deal with the hives and just hope and pray it never reaches his lips?
No other nursery near by has anymore experience with allergies than this one (this one has quite a lot of experience) and Id be starting from scratch with epipen training.
Ok, Im totally preparing for flaming, Ive cried my eyes out all afternoon, I think I can handle a bit more!