To not want to jump through these hoops?

[Holdmylamp]

I've been invited to a wedding, a playground mum and her new DP. I'm grateful to though surprised by that invite. It is during the school day, with the wedding meal finishing in time to pick up the DC from wraparound care. Very organised.
The mum would like us all, about 6 families, to pick up our DC and then go back to the venue to continue the celebrations. A few families declined this and so I felt obliged to agree to these terms as she was quite saddened that her DC wouldn't have any peers to play with in the evening. Which is fine. So in preparation I was searching through the venue details, and have found out its 47miles away. So 188 round trip So now I feel I would rather not fetch the DC. I really don't want to disappoint her on her lovely day, or leave her DC friendless in the evening, but it's quite a rigamorel, isn't it? How do I approach this?

Tell her you've just worked it out and that would be about a 2 hour round trip, so sadly, you won't be able to do it... or you can't go!

That is a truly ridiculous idea

Obviously you will get someone else to pick up your dc's or leave in time to do it yourself...but to go back ?

Just daft innit

I'd be in the car 4 hours that day, nomama. I really like this family
I don't want to let them down though.

Tell her that you have worked out the mileage and you are sorry but you can't go.

Ill be able to go, that's fine, but the DC will be missed.

If she'd like her DC to have others to play with in the evening why not just offer to do the evening do not the day rather than pull out of the whole thing?

You could even pick her DC up and take them all if you were able/feeling generous.

Thanks, her DC will all ready be at the wedding, so no lifts to be offered. I've slept on it and am no closer to making a decision.

Can someone else pick up the dc and meet you halfway? Could a minibus be putnon to bring all the dc depending how old they are?