Before I start I'm well aware this sound like something off Jeremy Kyle. I can't actually believe this is my life right now.
At the end of last year, me and my husband separated, my DH had a nervous breakdown and ended up sleeping with someone else. He was honest with me about it, but the person was someone who I considered a friend and I found out after she deliberately tried to cause problems between us as she wanted my DH for herself.
Not taking blame away from my DH, but we're working through our problems and things are actually pretty good now.
Anyway, the "other woman" has been involved in quite a few slanging matches with my hot-headed friend. It was over 8 months ago now, I just want to forget about it and move on. I ignore her if I see her and she ignores me, I'm quite happy with that. However, despite me telling her to leave it, my friend and her always fling torrents of abuse at each other, threats of violence etc, I don't want any of that, I'd even started distancing myself from my friend because of it.
A couple of days ago, they ended up having a violent altercation. Someone else got involved and my friend ended up with a black eye and a few cuts and bruises. I wasn't there, but she phoned me saying she wanted to go to the house and cause more trouble. I said I can't do that, and she hung up on me.
I was really worried about her as she said she'd been hurt, but I wasn't able to drop everything and go running down the road into World War 3. While I'm trying to think of what to do, I message a mutual friend who lives really close and tell her to make sure my friend and her kids were OK.
I message her as well asking if she's alright.
The instant she gets off the phone she goes on Facebook basically completely flaming me, making out it was my fault she got beaten up and I didn't care when it happened. Then all night I kept seeing posts saying that it wasn't "her fight", the beating was meant for me etc. I'd left it alone for MONTHS! I'd asked her to do the same. I was gutted she'd been hurt but now she was basically telling everyone we knew it was my fault because I didn't go running straight down there. I suffer from deep seated anxiety and panic attacks, I'd spent all afternoon comforting my Dad as we've recently lost my Mum, and instead of actually talking to me, she just basically cunted me off all over Facebook!
I was feeling really bad about what happened and was trying to sort it so I could go round there and see if she was alright, but then I go on Facebook and see all that and part of me thinks "Do you know what...Fuck you!" I didn't say that. I've been nothing but apologetic and she's just being horrible to be honest. I understand she's upset and hurt and angry...I would have forgiven it if it was just in the heat of the moment, but it carried on to the next day.
Since all this happened (a couple of days ago), I've messaged her trying to explain why I didn't get down to see her and that I was upset she'd flamed me without even talking to me. She has said some horrible things I won't go into.
Am I being Unreasonable in being pissed off and just not wanting anything to do with her any more? I'm really upset that she's been hurt but she's been nothing but a bitch to me since, when I've done nothing to provoke the situation and she had literally called her out every time she's seen her and told her "Come on then, come for me!" etc. I'm really not saying she deserved to be assaulted, please don't think that, but I'm just done with all this drama. I just want to move on from it all and leave it in the past. She kept carrying it on, against my wishes, and then blames me when it blows up in her face.
That last bit might make me sound like a bitch, I love her to bits, she's one of my best friends, but the things she's been saying to me, and ABOUT me to all of my friends are really unfair and cruel. Everyone basically thinks I dragged her into a situation and when she got hurt I abandoned her...but that's just not true. Lots of our friends are being funny with me and she's not even telling them the whole story just the bits that make me look bad.
Sorry, this is really long and convoluted, if anyone has made it to the end, I salute you! I'm feeling like I'm being Unreasonable in that she's been hurt and I should be more sympathetic, but she's made it really hard after everything she's said.