to want to dis-own my younger brother

[samandkat]

My brother has many mental health problems like ADHD autism and aspergers syndrome (as well as other things that I can't spell or remember the name of)

My brother now twenty has decided to take him self off his medication and his moods and temper have worsened ten fold

He will not listen to anyone with advice and tell them that they are wrong

He has this made up reality that the world is perfect and independent living is easy and if you try and help him he will just push you out the way

This has worn my dad down to the point where he just wants his own son to leave

He does not care for anyone but himself I am at a loss as of what to do if there is anything to be done half of me wants to help but at the same time I just want to turn my back

What should I do

How old are you, OP? You sound quite young.

26

But with my mother not been around I helped raise him and my sister aswell who is 19 so I have been more involved that most other siblings and been more of a mother than a sister

You do not have to do this alone , you need to speak to his mental health worker ( they are often in community mental health teams) they hv a responsibility that he is not affecting others around him and not affecting himself , they hv the law behind them if necessary they can force treatment prior to that they will try other avenues to get him to engage first

You do not have to do this alone , you need to speak to his mental health worker ( they are often in community mental health teams) they hv a responsibility that he is not affecting others around him and not affecting himself , they hv the law behind them if necessary they can force treatment prior to that they will try other avenues to get him to engage first

I don't think you can do much, except to decide if they will live with your dad or not. (well, I guess your dad would decide) Tell them they take their meds or else move out.

If they still want to be medication free I'd find them a place to live and move them out.

Wow how patronising IAm...

You don't need to do this alone Op..

x post molly

Wow thanks Molly I didn't know they could force meds I never knew that and will be something to tell my dad

Does your brother have MH problems as well as the ADHD/AS/ASD?

If you speak to his MH worker, they will be able to help, worst case scenario is that he can be made to go into hospital to be assessed and then be medicated.

Patronising? Really? My apologies to the OP if I accidentally was. I skim-read the title and didn't spot the younger brother part and I thought the OP may have been a teenager at home, which would have made a difference to my response. It's hard to read someone's 'voice' online and in this case, I misjudged the age and situation of the OP.

What I will say is that this is the wrong section for this - you'll get much better responses in the Special Needs section. And I am not certain that you CAN force someone to take their medicine, if they aren't in a mental health treatment environment.

I feel for you, OP. I don't think there is anything you can really do, other than to support your dad.

No one can be forced to take medication...unless sectioned which is a very involved process (quite rightly) You can probably speak to his support worker but they may not discuss him with you without his permission.. consent is a big issue, even if a young adult has severe mental impairment/learning difficulties. (My 17 yr son has ASD and learning difficulties so fairly clued up on this!)

Sadly, I think that all you can do is support your dad:/

Thank you Medusa. I was just coming on to say this.

Being sectioned is hugely complex. It's also possible, even easy, to have MH problems and not have a MH worker.

I really sympathise with this position. We had awful problems with my brother years ago: he resisted any help but sectioning wasn't an option as he wasn't deemed a danger to himself - some of his behaviour was dreadful but it has to be life or death before they'll section you, it seems!

My advice, based on what we went through is to try (hard though it is) to detach yourself. Don't expect normality, expect bizarre behaviour. Support one another. Laugh, if you can.

It's a nightmare. X