Or should I not have hoped for reciprocation?

[FreeWee]

My DB is our DD's godfather. He is great with kids and is so happy to have a DS of his own. DNph's christening is in 2 weeks time and there hasn't been a reciprocation of godmotherdom bestowed upon me (tongue in cheek ) and I only realised tonight. I mentioned it to my DH in passing saying 'oh it was nice of DB to ask me to be godmother' and he replied 'yes, nice for it to be returned'. Then he realised I was being rueful and said 'actually it is a bit of a surprise'. Just wondered what other people think? It's not really about giving to receive as it were I just thought maybe he'd consider me a suitable role model.

It depends who he has chosen. His choice will have far more to do with his opinion of the person he has chosen than his opinion of you.

Maybe his DW insisted on choosing people she wanted and your DB didn't have much option.

Either way, YABU. Like you said, you don't give to receive, you should never have expected to be a GP.

maybe you asked yor db as he didn't have dc, so it was a nice role, but he thinks you weren't too fussed as you have dc and (whisper.. it'snot a massively important role, and yes,our dc are christened!)

We had sibling as GP's and really i wantedto ask friends but we sort of felt 'obliged' to do the family thing.

Meh, don't worry, you are the auntie,soyou still have v imp role! Poss your brother thought you didn't needtohave 2 'roles'?

Is there much point in being a godmother if you are already an aunt? I wouldn't really know, as I have no plans to christen my DC.

Hmm, I can see where you're coming from but it's not just his choice is it?

Do he and his DW/DP have a bigger base from which to choose? If DW has lots of people to consider that could have been a factor. If he has more than you he "owes" he may be torn too and think that you'd mind less not being chosen than someone else.

It's difficult without knowing the set up but I'm sure it can't be a snub to you if he loves you enough to be a godparent to your own DC. :)

Woowoo raises some very good points.

But you might bein luck if they have another.

I can see why you are disappointed and I would be too.

I personally don't believe in picking family to be godparents but I know several people who do so it's really variable. Perhaps they are this type?

When I chose my DC godparents I didn't expect it to be reciprocated at all. But as I said, I don't think that would stop me being disappointed of they didn't return the honour.

Yes I agree Woo and I'm sure when I find out who it is it will become clear. And I do see the point about being an aunt already so not needing to be a GP. My DSis have kids and didn't choose any family as GPs just friends but then their DC don't actually see all of their GPs any more because friends drift away. They do see some GPs of course. I think his DFiance will have had a big hand in choosing the female GP and it will be one of her friends no doubt. We aren't close; not through lack of trying but more she's just one of those partners who are really into their man but not fussed about their family. My DSis and I feel similarly about her but my DB and I have always been the closest. I asked him because he is great with kids and I think he is a good role model in many ways. more so than DH's friends His DFiance was pregnant at the christening so I knew he had one on the way. Interesting thoughts though cheers.