My teenage son has SEN, so troubles in school have meant he has low self esteem, doesn't always know how to act in social situations (it's part of his chromosome abnormality they say) and kids don't take well to him. All through school (several schools since we've moved house a few times - different towns) he has had trouble with other kids, bullying him, attacking him, name calling. My heart breaks for him and I get really angry wondering why him? Why my son? He's good as gold at home, a gentle soul.
Only he's not. He's actually not that nice of a person at school to other kids and says stupid things in anger at them which gets him in trouble. He's been at his new school for about a month, and already he's got most of the school on his back for the things he says.
I've just been made aware of instances where he's talked about someone's family, the boy just told me in the street after I pulled him up about making gestures to my son in front of me - said he was 'going to get battered' by a whole year group, two years above. I took exception to this and told him so. Then he told me about the things my son has been saying.
I won't be seen to be allowing my son to act this way, but I can't allow a person to threaten him in my presence, so I left it in a 'ok so is this going to end between all of you now?'. I don't think it will but I'm not as worried about that part.
I'm worried about my son and what to do. I'm tired of sticking up for him when a lot of the time he doesn't help himself. I am not the 'my son is an angel, and you can't tell me otherwise' type of person, I'll never allow it. I tell him off when he needs to be told off and this is one of those times. Do I tell him I am leaving him to it - wash my hands of it - Never stick up for him again?
I feel like a fool. All this time I thought he was at school avoiding confrontation and in reality he's been in the thick of it, pushing it further. Anyone else been in a similar situation?