to let my children share a bed?

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My 2 and 6 year old daughters are very close and adore one another. At the moment I'm 20 weeks pregnant and co-sleeping with 2 yr old dd who I'm in the process of night weaning which is going surprisingly well. 6 yr old dd has a bunk bed but has asked if she can share the bottom bunk with her sister when she moves into her room. 2 yr old is obviously used to sharing a bed and so would probably prefer to sleep with her sister than alone. Aibu to let them share a bed?

I have a 3 and 7 year old who occasionally bed share.

If they are happy then I dont see the problem.

not if thats what they want no. my girls have their own beds, but 4/7 i go in in the morning and they are in bed together (age 6 and 10) and sometimes ds aged 9 is in there too!

Mine are 3 and 4 and sleep in a double. They had their own rooms & beds but wanted to be together so we tried bunks (expensive mistake as they were scared) and so got them a double and they're happy.

Is 2 too young though? She's only just two. I read something about a 20 month old dying of SIDS the other day and it's worried me that it's still a possibility.

Yes but adults can die of SIDS, it's just called SADS (adult in place of infant). The guidelines about bedsharing apply to suffocation and accidental injury, not SIDS. At 2 she'll be fine - she'll easily shove her sister out of bed I reckon

I would be careful with bunk beds though. Can they separate out into single beds? Bunk beds are further from the wall than normal beds and they tend to have more small spaces where a small child could get stuck. Depends how hefty your 2yo is I suppose but I'd be happier in a normal single than a bunk bed.

She's very dainty but can barely fit her arm down the side of the bed so think it'd be ok.

Not at all. My two share a bed when I can get them out of mine! They're 7 and 3 and have been doing so for about 18mths. They have perfectly nice rooms each, but are scared to be alone.

OK, what about when the bed moves, when someone gets in and out of it, if the older one climbed up to the top bunk, etc? (I had really wobbly bunk beds as a child so may have a somewhat skewed mental picture here!)

My elder two share (7 & 5). As long as they also have the option not to share it isn't a problem. Mine have bunks, but both sleep in the bottom!