Wrong choice?

[thegirlwhouk]

I'll try to keep it short. I'm currently 6 months pregnant. DS due in October. DH has a new job which I'm really grateful for as we will be moving away from London back towards our families.

We have sold our house (offer accepted) and have spent the past 3 weekends in our new home town looking for a house to live in. I'm looking for a gorgeous family home which ticks all the boxes that we can stay in for at least 5 years.

Turns out this perfect house doesn't exist (who'd have thought it!!!). Not many houses on the market and certainly none done exactly to our tastes which require very little work. I'm keen not to do work with baby on the way. It's just all added stress and we've only recently finished refurbishing our current place. Not sure I fancy doing it all again...

The way I see it, we have a few options.

1. Buy something cheaper and do it up and just accept that work will need to be done to make it right for us. This takes time and stress, not sure I wan't to do this with a new baby.

1. Rent for a year. This is expensive because rental is more than our mortgage and it's money we don't get back. However, removes a lot of stress and means we have time to find the perfect place.

1. Keep on looking, which involves spending time travelling up at weekends etc. If we don't find the 'perfect' house then move in with parents until we do. This would obviously have to be short term (less than 6 months) and could mean we end up taking baby 'home' to their house. Can't unpack all our stuff etc...

What would you do? AIBU to want a house that needs no/little work? Am I biting off my nose to spite my face? After all, putting effort in now could be the only way we get our 'perfect' home. Would it really be that bad having building work with a baby?

Especially if you could decamp to your parents' for a couple of weeks if necessary.

no such thing as a perfect house option one - things don't have to be changed in the first month make it liveable and do things later

Option 1, but I wouldn't choose anything requiring major structural work with a new baby on the way. Cosmetic decoration, changing kitchens and bathrooms, that sort of thing, would be ok for me.

Option 3

Option 1. We moved in with family for 6 weeks while moving with a newborn and a toddler. We were extremely grateful to my DM, but I wouldn't recommend it!!

Optipn One. Live very temporarily with the ILs while you get people in to do the kitchen, bathroom, carpets and painting (like a month) then move in and do the touch up stuff as you go.

I think it depends on your parents/in laws and the size of their house.

Both our parents are quite laid back and have a decent enough size house that we're not on top of each other. Plus you have to discuss money and rules before hand, especially when you have a baby on the way (we have too btw).

It's a good way of saving money too. I wouldn't rule it out. And it's not forever.

We moved back to my home area with a 10 day old DD1, for DH to start a new job.

We had sold our house once already but it fell through at the last minute, leaving us with nowhere to go.

Luckily my parents had a big house (so we got three rooms to ourselves - bedroom, bathroom and a sitting room) and were chilled enough about a baby to invite us to stay while we found somewhere. We ended up being with them for the best part of 4 months - in the end we found a new build just so we could move in asap.

It was absolutely fine for us - my parents are/were quite relaxed, happy to take things as they come and we all got on ok. We were still all relieved on the day we moved into the new house however!