to be sick of dps moods

[harriet247]

I just feel so so fed up.
He is prone to being a grumpy prick when stressed/tired etc but I'm just starting to question why the fuck he can't control it.
We only have one day off together a week as we both work shifts and have 1 year old and money is tight so not ideal circumstances but not the worst position to be in.
Recently on his last 3 days off he has been a moody arse, Saturday he questioned everything; why did I want to buy bacon? What for? Why do I am want to cross the road there? Why am I hoovering NOW?
he looked at me like I was a piece of shit when I said his family couldnt come over the next day (he wouldnt be home) because I was going out with my dad who I havent seen in months- we see his family nearly every week.

I didnt see him at all yesterday as he worked all day then work night out.
This morning nice as pie, like sickly sweet.

Fwiw I do almost all cooking and cleaning, so its not like he even has that to deal with. I dont know how to deal with it at all, hes a very good dad and does work hard but I cant have these ups and downs!

Shit that was long sorry :(

In what way is he 'a very good dad'?

Well hes never like that with her, always takes her out, play together,makes sure she has everything she needs. The usual good dad stuff!
Thats why its so frustrating because he wouldn't treat friends or family in hotrible grumpy manner

Does he speak to you like that in front of your DD? If so, then he 's not a good dad. You say he wouldn't treat others the way he treats you, so he's picking his targets. What an unpleasant man.

harriet247 No matter what he does and how hard you explain that he's a good dad there are a raft of posters who'll stick the boot in where he's concerned.

I hope you all can work it out and come to a compromise because you both sound stressed.

Sounds like you get the sharp end. I would be pointing that out so he is aware you see he can control himself with other people. Also sounds like his family are around a lot - don't see why you have to entertain them in his absence. Could they take your DD for the day instead so you both get a bit more time off for once?

harriet that sounds more like he's a fun dad, not a good dad. Good dads, as well as the fun stuff, plan meals, cook, clean up after, change nappies, get children dressed/undressed, do the bath and bed routine, change bedclothes, get up in the night for them, take time off work to take them to the doctor. Does he do that stuff too? Or is that your job?

" he wouldn't treat friends or family in hotrible grumpy manner"
So that means he can control his behaviour, but chooses not to when with you. You say you both work shifts - are you full-time too?

Being stressed and tired doesn't give anyone carte blanche for crap behaviour to other people. You are probably tired and stressed too - you don't do it, so why should he? You need to start by talking to each other - difficult, I appreciate, with your shifts, but it needs to be a priority. He needs to be clear that this behaviour is not acceptable to you, and that he needs to get his act together.