To think parent sending me a text message asking me to have a word with ds is a bit much??

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Got text message from another parent asking me to have a chat with my son as he had upset her child. I replied to say thanks for letting me know will do. But when I asked ds he said it was someone else, he seemed to be a bit confused as to why he had been blamed, but had a chat about being nice anyway.

Have been going over times tables at school in yr 3 and seems some kids were struggling with 2 x, think this boy was one if them. When they were getting ready for football, one of the othe kids asked who had 2x to practise for homework then started to laugh and question why they weren't in the bottom group for maths. Asked ds if he joined in and he said no, can't say as I wasn't there, but have has a chat about feelings etc. but do I go back with 'my findings' or just leave it??

I'd leave it and if she texts you again, ask her to deal with it via school.

Just tell her your child said he wasn't involved

Say your child wasn't involved and perhaps best if she deals with it through school.

Text back or better still pick the phone up and ring. Then tell her to contact the school if she has any gripes in future.

I don't understand why she has your mobile number though.. does the school just dish them out willy nilly?

I would text back..If you have any concerns about behaviour in school please contact the teacher or head

Does this other parent text you about things generally? I'd certainly be discouraging her from doing it about school stuff - it should be dealt with in school, not out of it unless the teacher asks you to reinforce certain messages out of school as well.

Has mobile number from parties, thanks for advice!!

No. No. No.

What happens in school gets dealt with in school.

I'd be so cross at someone doing this, they'd get short shrift from me.

I'd text back and say you had a chat, it wasn't him but he was there. You reinforced being nice and thinking of other people's feelings and hope your dc is ok.

I'd want to know if my child was being mean to others so I'd be fine with getting a text so ibtold investigate it further.

I'd just text back, will do, and then leave it. If she mentions it again then just tell her what you told us.

Just tell her you had a chat, ds wasn't the one who made the joke but you reinforced that jokes can hurt feelings.

Unless she's a constant complainer, I'd cut some slack. She hasn't demonised your son but maybe her son is really suffering low confidence and feeling "everyone laughing at him" would be upsetting.

I agree with Aussiemum. It's hard to hear your child has been ridiculed in that way and he was probably too upset to recall accurately who laughed.

I'd far rather a parent aired this stuff immediately so I have a chance to talk to them about teasing than allow it to escalate.

I think I'd text back saying my son says he wasn't actively involved but he was there and we've had a chat about it.

I'd like to think my child would tell them to stop but I know many children don't have that confidence. Still, I wouldn't like them to think they are completely innocent because they just watched either.