to be annoyed he has pissed off to bed.

[oxfordmumma1]

So I am self employed very part time with 3 dc. 20 mths 7 and 9. Dh works long hours during the week and is not very hands on when it comes to dc and home.
So we have been away for the weekend. He has done all the driving but since returning home at 7pm he has done nothing except make himself a snack. Not even taking his own mug into kitchen or putting a crisp packet in the bin.
Meanwhile I have done bedtime. Little one finally settled at 11pm due to sleeping in the car,, work prep and laundry. I have also done some cleaning as mil who clearly thinks I am a lazy cow is coming tomorrow.
Dh has pissed off to bed as he is so tired.
He has the day off work tomorrow, yet I have an important meeting.
Aibu to think he should have helped.
He will be doing some vacuuming tomorrow morning though before her ladyships visit bet he will tell her he has done it though..

Sounds tough. Have you actually articulated to him that you need him to help? Obviously he SHOULD see what has to be done, but sometimes it is necessary to spell it out.

I often found weekends away to be a bit grim when my children were little (and even now). Is it just a bad night or is he generally quite useless domestically?

In the past when I have asked for help he has always gone on the attack. Ie if you didn't do this, (things like shopping, school plays , parent and baby and toddler groups etc etc) than you could do get it done.
I can't do it becaus I work long hours whilst you sit on your all day etc etc.
He also didn't really want our last child and deep down I think he blames me.
I think our marriage is over really. Just so hard to split due to joint finances

I'm sorry your having such a tough time. Yes, he should help, and he sounds like an arse.

How about not cleaning for mil in future? Does it matter what she thinks of you? Let him do it if he cares.

Yanbu but you need to get prepared for the future without him unless you want to live the rest of your life like this.