Not to want to have a fuss made about 40th birthday?

[EnlightenedOwl]

To be honest its just a figure to me. Will celebrate it in my own way have got some treats lined up.
But work with a woman who is a PITA and although she knows I don't want a fuss will make a fuss as she knows its not what I want!
For example another lady had her 40th recently and it was like every bit of tat from Clintons was on her desk. Those confetti type number 40s (we were still picking them up months later) large balloons you name it. They'd even raided pics of her off her facebook and they were stuck all over the office. Now she seemed quite happy with it but I wouldn't be.
I've got a facebook account but there are no pics on there. I've closed that one off.
I've said categorically I do not want this to happen with me and I've booked off the time around my birthday to try to avoid it but wtf do I do if I go in on my last day before finishing work pre-birthday and the office PITA has covered my desk in tat?

I understand you can't be arsed with all that (nor can I)

But it's only one day at work with some tat on your desk

I don't think there's anything you can do about it really, except nod and smile.

Tell everyone you are finishing up the day after you are actually off?

I'm ?ith you, I've quietly shifted my DOB over the last few years do my 40th will pass unmentioned with people thinking its my 39th.

I have just had a discussion about saying I'm either 39 or 41!!!!! On a good day might get away with 38!!!
I'm going to end up having it forced on me and having to make out I'm happy with it even though I'm not.

Just tell her that it's not your birthday and that you don't want stuff on your desk etc. Tell her that any you do find on your desk will be removed.

If she moans just tell her that you understand that she wants to do something to celebrate your bithday but you are uncomfortablw with that. And she wouldn't be wanting to make you feel uncomfortale, would she?

She would be wanting to make me uncomfortable! She delights in it. Someone at work got married and for their own reasons didn't want photos shared/distributed etc across facebook. Guess who did.... even though she knew what this person's wishes were and then she complained when it went nuclear...
Love the suggestions so far.. making me smile anyway!

Can you tell her you've cancelled your first day's leave but don't cancel it. She'll think you'll be in work but you won't. The when you do get back to work, as your birthday will have passed, you'd be justified in removing the shit off your desk.

Or just go and have a word with her line manager if she is making you uncomfortable in work.