Ex Partner gone mad?

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Ex Partner comes to see our our 3dc at my house on weekends mostly Sundays, I have posted before that he will only have them at my house but that's an ongoing issue, I have bought an extra armchair that fits/matches perfectly into my home, anyhow today ex partner walks in and sees it and starts shouting 'what the fuck have you got another chair for? You are not right in the head, you have lost the plot' storms off into my kitchen leaving me bewildered and off he goes slamming the front door
Am I missing something here? Why could anyone be so angry over that?!

He will make it seem like his behaviour is your fault because that is what abusers do, thats how they gain control.

I think the PP who said he probably thinks you've got someone else coming over to sit in it is probably right. It would be an odd reaction if he was the one to have broken off with you. It's an inappropriate reaction in either case. I think you need to hand the kids over at the door.

I will feel like he still has some say in the home if you let him walk in every week. I did the same with my ex. I even came in from the garden one day to find him and the electrician making arrangements for another appointment!

If he has to make an effort to take them out it will build their relationship. No sane person would expect you to let him into your house every week to keep things going.

You have the perfect opportunity now to inform him that the home visits clearly aren't working and that he needs to make arrangements to pick them up once a week from now on.

*He will, not I!

Actually do think you are doing the right thing letting him see the kids in your home. This arrangement is always better for the kids if you can make it work. They didn't ask for the divorce or split so it seems odd that they end up with two homes and two lives etc.

But I wouldn't stick around. I'd be out for the day, or spend day at friend's or family, or even if you can, the day at his. And I'd walk out the door as he walks in.

Alternatively I'd go stay in my room for
The day. Working or surfing on the laptop, reading, watching TV etc. I'd keep snacks, kettle etc in there.

But from the sounds of your ex I'd leave. After getting a lock put on door of bedroom and making sure all private stuff was in there!

The trouble with that though is that the kids do need to understand that their parents won't be getting back together, and things like tolerating them in your home every week also keeps that hope alive for kids. Because other kids from split homes go out to see their Dad's, so maybe Mum might let Dad back properly?

Does he not have a place of his own?