Mum died 15 yrs ago and dad was on his own until 3 yrs ago when he announced that he had a g/f. Sis and I were delighted until he said that she was 47, just 1 yr older than me (felt weird!). He was 80 at that time. They met out dog walking when she approached him saying ‘are you on your own? So am I’. It was just after her second divorce and her house was about to be repossessed. She tried to move into my dad’s 4 bed house, but we managed to persuade him it was a bad idea to live with someone he didn’t know that well. We were suspicious of her motives because, much as we love him, he’s hardly a stud muffin. He is almost deaf, has rotten teeth (he pulled most of his teeth out with pliers), isn’t exactly hygienic and stinks of dog. He has never been sociable and has no friends. She has been on benefits for years and dad pays for all her fags, booze (and she drinks a lot!) and clothes etc., as well as ferrying her around in his car. But we took that view that if she made him happy, who were we to interfere? We only met her once and left them to get on with it. They were always splitting up and getting back together again, most recently because he found out she was seeing her first ex and my dad on alternate weeks! But he still took her back. Got a call from her a month ago to say dad had bad food poisoning and she had called for an ambulance and would be staying in his house to look after his dog. Dad had an obstructed bowel and had life saving surgery. When he was coming around in ICU the next day, he made it clear to us he wasn’t very happy about her being in his house alone, but felt indebted to her, but we got her out very nicely (sure you’d love to go home...my kids would love it if I took dog to my house). I told his g/f that I could take her to hospital with me whenever she wanted as was passing her town on the way. We tried to be friendly for my dad’s sake (I even topped up her mobile phone for her...I’m as taken in by sob stories as my dad).. She came once and then made every excuse as to why she couldn’t visit (dentist, bad tummy, allergy to hair dye, blood poisoning). Two weeks later, and no more visits from her (and to cut a long story short), dad realised that she had stolen his door keys some time ago. He had suspected someone else and changed the locks, but things fell into place. He told me to tell her not to visit him again and told the staff independently at the hospital that he was frightened to go home because she has ‘funny turns and just flips’ and he is worried that she will harm him (push down stairs). I told her politely that dad doesn’t want her to visit and that he needs time to recover. But she has been leaving vile voice texts on my phone almost daily ever since and says that he will believe her and not me when he gets home. I didn’t respond to any until last night when I just snapped and sent her some back. the first one starting ‘Do not flatter yourself. You did not save my father’s life, a team of highly skilled and intelligent medical specialists saved his life. You just dialled 3 digits on phone’. He should be out this week with a care package in place. Nurses reported matter to matron in charge of safeguarding, but not much she can do. I don’t know what to do. I would like to keep her away from him, but I wouldn’t know how or even if I should be feeling this way. Am I being unreasonable? Should I let my dad sort this out for himself?