to wonder if anyone else has just had a feeling somethings wrong with their pregnancy...

[gogoflo]

And been right?

I'm 20 weeks pregnant with dc4. When I first tested the line was faint for weeks, despite it being the same gestation as previous dc who all had strong lines. I felt sick and have been unbelievably tired, like the other pregnancies added together and multipled by ten. The 12 week scan was fine, I thought I was starting to feel movement at 15-16 weeks but nothing since. The heartbeat was heard at the 16 wk appointment and my bump is growing. My 20 wk scan is this week but I just can't shake the feeling something is wrong this time, and I'm the least paranoid person ever. The lack of movement worries me and I don't feel pregnant at all. Has anyone else felt like this? Aibu and worrying over nothing?

I was like that with DC3. He didn't move much, ever, the line was faint and I was oh so ill. I also got it into my head that there was something wrong, I was convinced he would be born with some kind of disability, but he wasn't. For me, I think it was partly that I didn't bond with the bump as we had decided to stop trying the week before my BFP, and also because I'd already had two healthy children and felt my luck would run out.

I felt differently once the baby arrived, hopefully you will too.

I've had three children and was from an area were big families were the norm.

I'm not dismissing what you are saying, but I've known a lot of women to get these feelings from 12 weeks, the bad dreams start around now, as well.

It's your 4th so you probably know all this.

My DD is using an app on her phone and the MW has listened and said that it is the baby that it's picking up.

My DD's DP wants to buy a monitor, they are around £20, he can't quite believe it's happening.

I lost a baby at your stage and felt drained, I also looked ill, I could pin point when the placenta had failed, I had flu like symptoms about three days later, that was the infection starting.

"not feeling pregnant" could just mean that you are sailing through it, this time.

gogoflo - i didnt want to read and not comment.

I am 23 weeks and have struggled to connect with this bump - convinced as every stage that there would be something wrong and didnt want to get my hopes up.

i havent felt much movement but at 20 week scan - they said i have an anterior placenta - which means it lies at front of womb and so wont feel much til later on? That may be a possibility for you ?

I understand how you feel, ds2 is 8 weeks old and through most of my pregnancy I just couldn't shake this feeling that something was wrong. I fell pregnant very quickly and just thought it was to good to be true etc. But everything turned out to be fine, no complications or anything. Just that horrible feeling!

Yes, but I was only 5 weeks pregnant, driving home from an evening out, and instantly I suddenly felt not pregnant. It wasn't to be.

I didn't have that feeling further along in sucessful pregnancies, but you're in the middle of the second trimester, and it's normal to often feel not pregnant during that period.

The fact that you felt so awful and tired during the first tri just goes to show that your body was busy working away making a baby. Even if your head didn't feel it, your body was doing it.

Good luck with the rest of your pregnany. :)

Thanks Grumpy. I also feel that about my 'luck running out.' I just feel like I can't plan or get excited because I just don't feel like I'm going to have an actual baby.

I could have written your thread OP, am at pretty much the same stage as you and have my 20 week scan but have a feeling of impending doom that something is wrong, 12 week scan was fine but I'm just not feeeling pg at all.

It's horrible isn't it popcorn Hope everything is okay for you. I have never even really considered anything being wrong in previous pregnancies but I justccan't get it out of my head with this one at all.

I've just tried to take one day at a time and see what happens, I'm nervous but excited about my scan on Wednesday.

Hope everything is ok for you too, I'm sure it will be and you'll kick yourself for worrying so much when in November we're holding our bundles of joy.

Weird that you guys have articulated what I felt in my one andonly pregnancy. I thought I had mental problems. I didn't feel pregnant at all, and after a massive bleed at 12w was paranoid as hell. I also developed IUGR and had a small baby and no visible bump (I have high BMI anyway) so maybe that was all part of it. DD was 9 weeks early and is fine now. But it was a very stressful time. Hope all is okay.x

I had certain feelings and I was right. That was at 39 weeks though.

Remember that 20 weeks is still early for some pregnancies to feel movement, there are loads of variables like maternal weight, baby direction, different amounts of fluid, and placental position, all of which can affect it.

Plus as pp have said, this is a crappy stage of pregnancy where symptoms go, movements and bump aren't really there yet, and dreams can be bad and vivid.

I hope your scan reassures you. If terribly worried, book a private scan for 28 weeks or so and ask for an extra midwife visit.

I suffer with health anxiety and was paranoid about my pregnancy. I bought a Doppler which helped and reassured me so much. Maybe invest in one of those xx

Yes, I felt bad all the time with dc2, anything would make me worry. Not helped by a bad nuchal reading at 12 weeks and subsequent scans, cvs etc. investigating it all.

DD was and is absolutely fine. Me, not so much. I had very bad pnd, so bad I was frightened to receive the treatment I was offered and ended up in hospital a few times with it.

Pregnancy is worrying, of course. But it might be worth telling the midwives exactly how you feel, they will definitely understand and hopefully not fob you off. Make a special appointment for it, if necessary, so its not tacked on when they need to get to the next person.

If baby is not moving much [or at all] perhaps you should go to EPU for a scan?

Hopefully it will provide the reassurance that all is okay.

Hugs

I had this feeling which I hadn't had with my first 2 and sadly I was right. Very faint positive, felt absolutely horrid and at my 12 week scan at 13 weeks it showed baby had no heartbeat. You've past that all important 12 week point which bodes really well for the pregnancy.

I got pregnant within 2 weeks of having a D&C and I'm currently sat feeding my nearly 6 month old daughter With her I hardly felt any movement and was told I had an anterior placenta.

Yes, I had a feeling ds would come early. He did.
Though second pregnancy would be fine. I had major complications and another early birth.
Maybe speak to your midwife about your anxieties?